These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: MARCH 2019

Wow, what a crazy month! The year has been flying by but somehow March seemed to go on forever! Perhaps it’s because it was so jam packed with amazing events, incredible people, some ups and downs and a strong reminder of my strength, determination and resilience. The temperatures cooling down and we’re making our way into April (I flippin love April!), but before I get swept up in the whirlwind of life, let’s have a look at the magic of March.

🙈 Arctic Monkeys Australian Tour and Sydney Mardi Gras

When it happens, it all happens at once. And on one magical night in March, I was graced by the presence of the Arctic Monkeys and the dazzling Sydney Mardi Gras. It seems that the Arctic Monkeys have received some mixed reviews from their most recent Australian tour, plus their new album. But I can honestly say that it was one of the best concerts I’ve ever been to! Even their new stuff, which yea, we all know it’s no AM, was incredible. We watched them in Qudos Bank Arena and we were even seated, and I can tell you, we were rocking out to the Monkeys! So. Freakin. Awesome. Alex Turner, you look great on the dancefloor.

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Then, it was out to the crazy streets of Sydney, covered in glitter and ready for a boogie. We ended up in Oxford St in the heart of it all. There really is no time like Mardi Gras. Everyone is so happy, accepting and loved up. My favourite part was ending up at a quiet little bar with espresso martinis in hand and watching the world go by. And of course, followed by a kebab! What a great time to be gay.

👗 All About Women Festival

I’ve been wanting to attend this festival for years! And each year it’s seemed to slip right by. But this year I was determined to soak up some female power. It came at the absolutely right time in my life and my feminism journey. I wrote all about my experiences in a post because I felt like I learnt so much and was really challenged in my beliefs and place in the world. I would strongly encourage everyone to attend events and meet new people that challenge you. It’s so easy to get comfortable in our ways, so bring on being uncomfortable and getting out of the comfort zone!

🐚 Jervis Bay roadtrip

Top of my go-to places for this year has been Jervis Bay! And we finally went! There’s nothing like a little day trip to get away from the chaos of life. We stopped of at Gerringong for some brekky, Hyams beach for some white sand and tropical water, Huskisson for some fish and chips, and of course, Berry for some famous donuts! I feel so lucky to live in such a beautiful part of the world! Let this be a reminder to get out and explore your own backyard!

❤️💛💚 One Love Reggae Concert

Yep you read that correctly, I spent my Friday night at a reggae concert! There’s nothing like being a little spontaneous and I can definitely agree that a reggae band is probably the most random, but most awesome night you will have! I wasn’t drinking, and despite all the dreadlocks around, wasn’t smoking, but felt high off life, music and the good vibes everyone was vibing! If you ever get the chance – go to a reggae concert! You won’t regret it.

🎶 Tunes

Pasta by Angie McMahon
Angie’s back and she’s brought her A game. I always love some kick ass female rockers, especially with a cool little video clip! I’m hoping this means a new album is on the way!

Old Man by Stella Donnelly
Wow! What an awesome album! I saw Stella Donnelly perform at A Day On The Green last month and was seriously blown away by her stage presence and live show. And now falling in love with her album, gosh I have so much respect for her, her music and what she stands for!

📚 Book

The Trauma Cleaner, by Sarah Krasnostein
I can honestly say that this book was incredibly challenging to read. Not in the way it’s written but the raw nature of the content. As the reader you’re very confronted by your own privilege. This book follows the story of Sandra, a trans woman cleaning up after other people’s mess. This book isn’t just important because of the experiences she shares during her transition to a woman, but her experiences as a sex worker, and a woman during the 80s and 90s. It also shines a light on poverty in Australia, a topic that I personally feel there is little discussion about among the Australian public. You’ll be challenged, but it’s absolutely worth it.

🎥 Flicks

Russian Doll
I smashed out this series very quickly and thought it was smart, provocative and super interesting! Natasha Lyonne plays her character so well and I was totally hooked! Your curiosity will keep you hanging around until the end!

📷 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders

Bobo and Flex
Yes. Yes. A million times YAAASSS! I absolutely love this podcast! These two gals have opinions and they want us to hear them! They dive deep into sex things that you think you’re not allowed to think. They make you evaluate your sense of self, your spirituality and your hotness. I love how candid their conversation is, and most of all Bobo’s reactions of ‘I am dead. Literally crying.’ (If you listen to the show you’ll know the exact voice she uses!) Absolute must for those independent women out there!

The Guardian’s Longread
This may reveal my inner nerd but I have fallen in love with The Guardian’s Longread podcast. Because unfortunately, I’m a busy gal and don’t always have time to read in-depth investigative journalism. And this podcast reads it to me! It’s a great way to feel informed, educated and in the know with leading issues.

One of the most interesting episodes I’ve listened to is called ‘White Gold: The Unstoppable Rise of Alternative Milks.’ Seriously I cannot stop talking about it so you should go and listen to it right now!

📝 Quote

Something that I kept coming back to this month was being strong and believing in myself. By having faith that I was in the right place, at the right time. I started a new job (a permanent one – what?!) and really believe that this is where I’m meant to be. It’s scary seeing friends move on and move away from their life in Wollongong. It’s even scarier thinking about your future in a place that you love so much, but think there’s maybe more out there for you. That time will come, but it’s funny how I have to keep reminding myself that I’m 24 years young. I have literally my whole life ahead of me. And there’s nothing wrong with taking your time, making the most of what you currently have, and making the most of the opportunities that present themselves to you.

Woah March, you were pretty hectic. Moving in to April, I think I need to make sure I’m constantly checking in with myself and see how I’m doing. It’s so easy to get caught up in life that you forget to take a step back, take a deep breath, and just be. I’m excited for all the awesome things planned for April, but I’m also looking forward to some down time and focusing on me!

Stretch Marks, Cellulite and Pimples Oh My! A Girl’s Journey To Love Her Body

It’s no surprise that the media, celebrities, influencers, magazines and Instagram make it feel like us women are not sexy, fit, beautiful and hot enough. We’re not enough, full stop. Well if you’re new around here, you know that’s not quite my style. I am all for embracing our bodies, loving ourselves and giving the finger to anyone who makes us feel anything less than awesome.

After a recent conversation with some girlfriends about our bodies, I thought I had to get specific. Specifically stretch marks, cellulite and pimples. How they make me feel, how I deal with it and how I embrace them.

Now I’m not going to pretend I’m a medical expert. There are plenty of reliable sources out there to help you with all your medical questions. This is purely my experiences, thoughts and perspectives towards my body, so don’t go trying to tell me I’m wrong.

Firstly, I am a curvy woman. I am well aware of this. I became aware of this when I was about 11 years old. I distinctly remember walking to my year 5 class when I was living in Townsville. I was walking alongside a friend when two of my friends walking behind me started laughing. We stopped to ask what was funny and they said that it was funny that my legs wobbled when I walked.

When I took up ballet classes when I was 13, well, you could only imagine. I didn’t quite fit in with my stick thin classmates. I was told to suck in my stomach, tuck away my butt and focus on strengthening ‘the right’ muscles (aka not muscles that added to my curvy figure).

I’ll never forget being intimate with someone. We were getting down and they made a comment about how thick my legs were. In fact, on several occasions, people have thought that during this time is an appropriate time to comment on my body hair, my tummy, my butt, the size of my breasts and my curves (but not in a sexy way).

Added to this, my skin has been a pretty chaotic rollercoaster. I got my first acne break out when I was 11 years old. Yep 11. Tiny little Adelaide had sweat pimples scattered across her forehead. 13 years later and the breakout, pimples, acne scars haven’t gone away. I still have frequent breakouts and black heads (and yes I’ve tried Proactive and all those other toxic products, and they don’t work). I’m nearly 25 years old and pimples are very much a part of my life.

When it comes to stretch marks, I guess I got pretty lucky. Yes I faintly have them around my thighs, hips and butt. I don’t have them on my boobs (I’m still waiting to grow into my boobs), and I know I got off pretty easy with the stretch marks. I’ve witnessed my friends bodies grow and as a result, get stretch marks. I’ve seen them get embarrassed and feel ashamed, all for the little wriggles that tell the story of their growth.

Cellulite is a new addition to all this. It’s a strange one because us women are told that having cellulite = failure. Cellulite is something we should be afraid of, fear and reject whole heartedly. It’s something that’d decided to say hello to my thighs in recent years and become more prominent. Whilst no one has made any comments like they did when I was 11, from the way society comments on women’s bodies, I already know it’s not ‘acceptable.’

It’s hard to have all of these experiences, fears and judgement and still hold your head high. Whether we like it or not, people are pretty judgemental and make assumptions about your health, diet, skin care routine and fitness. As hard as it is to step back and brush it off, you’ve just gotta do it. Because it’s a million times better than the alternative.

It sucks that that we are made to feel ashamed of their bodies. It can completely eat people up. It can dictate the way we dress, whether we go to the beach or not, if we try a new sport or not, if we feel confident getting intimate with a partner, if we have that next slice of pizza or if we stand a certain way in a photo. There’s definitely been times in my life where I’ve felt down and insecure about my body. Times that I don’t feel pretty enough, sexy enough, thin enough or fit enough. But I refuse to let those insecurities dictate my life, my happiness and my worth.

We am so much more than our bodies. My body is a vessel that I choose to fuel and nourish. Sometimes with veggies and salad, and others with pizza and pies. I love going rock climbing, doing yoga or going for a walk, and I also love sleeping in all day and watching YouTube. I like to wear crop tops and mini-skirts, and I like to wear baggy shirts and be a complete dag. Whatever I’m doing or wearing, I just like to happy being me!

At the end of the day, life is so much bigger than a pimple on our chin, some stretch marks on our hips and parts of my body that wobble. Let’s focus on what’s really important, the smiles on our faces, the bounce in our steps, the energy we bring to the room and the way we make people feel. The important stuff. The stuff that reflects our kindness, compassion and excitement for life. I’d rather go my whole life with a giant pimple on my forehead and live my best life, than have clear skin and still be uncomfortable in in nit. Life is too short and too damn great. Wobbles and all!

If you’re interested, I made a little video a few years ago about my experiences living with acne (it’s super cringey because I made it in 2016 but hey check it out!).

Wokeness, Inequality and Awakening: All About Women Festival

Individually, we are one drop. Together we are the ocean.

On Sunday 10th March, I decided to do something I’ve always wanted to do… attend an event about empowering, educating and inspiring badass women. All About Women is a festival celebrating women and our achievements whilst critically engaging in the global discussion surrounding gender inequality, and what it looks like for women around the world.

As I was on the train en route to Sydney, I firstly took some time to think about my experience as a woman in the world today. I am a proud feminist and feel relatively ‘woke’ about women’s issues in today’s society. But no matter your ‘wokeness’ level, if you’re a woman navigating today’s society, gender inequality affects each and every one of us in different ways. This is what gender inequality feels like in my everyday life;

  • I am terrified to walk home from the train station (5 minutes from home) at night.
  • I am scared of having my drink spiked when on a night out.
  • I feel ‘lucky’ for getting a job, rather than feeling I’ve ‘earned’ it.
  • I am labelled hysterical and psycho when I am angry or emotional.
  • I think twice about what I wear out, in case I attract unwanted attention.
  • I question my male friendships.
  • I get offended by trashy hip hop music videos.
  • I second guess when I hold hands with my girlfriend in public.
  • I’m constantly told my body is not sexy enough, slim enough or (insert health influencer buzzword here) enough.
  • I’m worried I won’t have enough superannuation when I retire.
  • I hold off disclosing my sexuality straight away.
  • My heart breaks every time I hear about a woman who has died at the hands of violence.

These are just some of the ways I do not feel equal in society. But being a white woman living in Australia, I know that my experiences are vastly different than those experiences of women of colour, transgender women, women with disabilities, women of faith and any woman who identifies as part of a minority.

This is why I wanted to attend this event. To hear, learn and grow from women whose experiences are different to mine, reflect and challenge my own knowledge, and think about what the future of feminism and gender equality looks like.

The Cut On Tuesdays featuring Clementine Ford

I attended a live recording of one of my favourite podcasts called ‘The Cut On Tuesdays.’ If you haven’t heard of it, and if you’re reading this blog, you will love it and I implore you to pause. go download. listen for the 40 minutes. come back. and say with me now. WOW!

I’ve never been to a live recording of a podcast, so I can truly say I had no idea what to expect. I attended with my friend Zina, and her Mum, which was a très cool duo to attend with. Under the beautiful arches of the Sydney Opera House, in the newly refurbished Utzon room, Molly Fischer brought the house down with her brilliant episode and presentation. With such a strong voice and even stronger ‘can do’ energy, I was immediately hooked. The fact that I could see Australian feminist icon, Clementine Ford, sitting in the front row, had me wriggling nearly off my seat!

Molly spoke about ‘women’s media.’ Everything from the sealed section in Cosmo, to the buzz word badass, to evolving from a fashion blog to a major political news company, now known as The Cut. When she invited Clementine Ford on stage to discuss gender and women’s rights here in Australia, I found myself nodding along to everything they were saying. As a young woman who recently graduated from a media and communications degree, it’s pretty inspiring to hear directly from the horses mouth, the experiences and challenges associated with being a woman in the media.

When the interview was wrapping up, Clementine Ford asked Molly what she thought of Australia and the way in which we treat women, after rather explicitly suggesting Australia is a rather sexist country. Her response was interesting. Whilst having only been in the country a few days, the first thing she mentioned was the luxury Australians have by having Medicare and universal health cover. Compared to the US, we are incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful system where a doctors appointment doesn’t cost hundreds of dollars. It was also interesting to see them apply a feminist lens to healthcare. Women’s rights are human rights and society as a whole benefits when women are treated equally. It was pretty damn awesome to be in a room where I felt excited by the challenge of being a woman with a passion for the media and the critical ability to engage with it.

Wokeness and Radness: Ayishat Akanbi and Jan Fran

The next session I attended was titled the ‘The Problem With Wokeness,’ presented by Jan Fran and Ayishat Akanbi. My first question was, well what is wokeness? And is there a problem with it?

I think the first time I came across the term ‘woke,’ was Childish Gambino’s Redbone, with the line ‘Stay woke, n*ggers creepin. They gon’ find you. Gon’ catch you sleepin.’ Fast forward a few years and being woke is one of the trendiest things you can be. Upon doing some light research before this talk, I found that ‘woke’ or ‘staying woke’ originates from American people of colour about racial injustice in the US with regards to police brutality. Woke is the past tense of ‘to wake,’ implying that wokeness equates to waking up to yourself and the world around you. Seeing the world for what it really is in all its messiness. Now, wokeness equals being aware of various social injustices affecting our communities and livelihoods.

So… what’s the problem with it? Well I must admit, I was so completely absorbed by her conversation and what she had to say, that I stopped taking notes and decided to just take it in. But one of the biggest takeaways is that she argues that wokeness has stripped us of our compassion. At the end of the day, regardless of our identities, we are painfully similar and have a lot more in common that we could believe. Compassion is fundamental for creating empathy and real connections with people who are similar to use yet have experienced the world in a different way to us.

I learnt that you really can’t be woke about everything. At the end of the day, we will never truly understand everyone’s unique experiences of the world. Oppression and inequality affects people in many ways. It’s up to us to listen, learn, be allies and speak up. I learnt it’s also not worth your time or energy to argue with people who are less intelligent than you. And by less intelligent, I mean, stupid idiot internet trolls who have already made up their mind and will attack you to break you. I found this enlightening because it’s a reminder to not always take things personally. That people can be passionate about a situation, whilst being respectful to you. And when they’re not, they’re not worth your time.

Ayishat also recommended if you want to have real conversations and attempt to really debate ideas, then leave your DM’s open. It’s funny how reactionary people are in the comments section. They type first and think later. In the DM’s, it’s a whole other story. People are respectful, polite and articulate. Even when disagreeing on a topic. I honestly believe this is how you have meaningful conversations that lead towards long term change.

I left the Festival feeling incredibly inspired yet apprehensive. It’s kinda crazy attending an event where everyone there is like minded, especially in the fight for gender equality, and then you leave the safety of your bubble and realise that there are some not so woke people out there. But the takeaway is that there are people out there. Fighting the hard fight, speaking out and standing up.

We’re not there yet, and we’ve got a long way to go, but in the meantime we can lift each other up and enjoy the ride.

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MAFS and the Creation of the ‘Crazy Woman’

OK I’m pretty ashamed to admit that I am completely and totally hooked on the cringe-worthy Married At First Sight (MAFS). There’s nothing quite like plonking myself on the couch after a long day of work and switching off my critical mind and switching on to people’s mediocre drama. And whilst this season has sparked a lot of controversies, cue Innes emotionally abusing her partner, Dino recording his partner’s phone call, Cyrell lashing out at Martha. Despite all these controversies and the heated reactions of the public, the one thing I have a bone to pick with is MAFS’ creation of the crazy woman.

Firstly, a disclaimer, I am not condoning any of the, quite frankly, disgusting behaviour shown on MAFS by anyone. But I think it’s important to question why all the drama and the ‘crazy ones’ are women. And yes, I’m well aware that this ‘reality TV show’ isn’t actually reality (if those dramatic edits don’t give it away I don’t know what does), but it does reflect society back to us as we watch through the screens. So whether it’s heavily edited or not, what’s shown to us is pretty damn important. And what I’m critical of is their blatant creation of the crazy woman. Lastly, who knows if the people on this are real people looking for love, actors, or crazy robots, but what is portrayed to me, and millions of nightly viewers, is that this is some kind of a reflection of real life.

MAFS have seriously created the ‘crazy woman.’ From Innes, to Elizabeth, Cyrell to Martha, Susie to Jessika, this season is loaded with ‘crazy women.’ Not only are they the centre of and cause of all of the drama and scandals on the show, but they’re pinned against each other. Who’s hotter, who’s got bigger lips, bigger boobs, a better relationship with their husband, can be bitchier towards one another? It’s all a competition and the men just sit back and soak it all up.

I find some of the things said by the men on the show very problematic, that are often overlooks by the ‘psychologists’ on the show. When Mike speaks like he knows it all, telling Heidi to calm down and not take responsibility for what he’s done or said, it makes me cringe and my blood boil. When Dino records his wife on the phone, when Matthew freaks out about Lauren’s sexuality… there’s a lot of ‘crazy’ stuff going on there that is completely overlooked and overshadowed by the apparent craziness of their wives.

What I don’t understand, is that yes, these producers apparently have a lot of power up their sleeve. From filming a scene for hours until someone states they ‘used to be a lesbian,’ or making ridiculous comments, why the hell is this power being used for the same old, boring, predictable shit? I understand it’s easy and a cheap laugh, but seriously, don’t you want to be a part of something bigger? Better? Why not create the character (because they all are characters) of a smart, intelligent, complex woman? Why not address issues that mean a lot to Australians? What about unemployment, unaffordable housing rates, our fears of climate change, where our clothes come from, or the rise of veganism?

It seems that the only people who have shown a hint of vulnerability and talking about something meaningful is Nick and his victory with cancer and Bronson who lost several family members. Even Matthews ‘virgin status,’ that could have been a really beautiful moment to discuss male sexuality and the pressure of modern dating. But no, he was labelled ‘Matthew the virgin,’ or ‘Matthew the ex-virgin.’ (I’m sorry but doesn’t literally everyone on this planet falls into one of those two categories? It’s really not a defining characteristic – they would have been better off saying ‘Matthew the brunette.’) It’s awesome that they’re creating complex, emotional and vulnerable men, but why do the women have to fall under the category of hot, crazy or wife material?

I think it’s a difficult topic because we usually tune in to reality TV shows to switch our brains off, but that doesn’t mean we should switch our standards and values off too. Even the Kardashians are capable of addressing bigger problems (cue family break up, relationships, childbirth, trans women, homelessness, sex tapes and lost earrings). And that’s saying something.

If there’s any light at the end of the tunnel, we know it’s Cam and Jules (I swear if I find out they’re involved in any scandals I will scream in unison with the rest of Australia). They’re the ‘parents’ of the show and the sweethearts who treat each other with respect, honesty and compassion. Jules talked about the importance of children in her future and how that was a deal breaker for her (many women go through this moral dilemma). And Cam talked about his height insecurity, and tendency to put his career before his love life. These are both things that many Australians can relate to and can spark simple and productive conversation.

No, I’m not expecting too much from MAFS or any other reality TV show. You can still have the drama, the scandals and the crazy characters. You can keep your drama, scandals and crazy characters, but please don’t make them all about women!

These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: FEBRUARY 2019

 Oh February, how are you always such a short month, but the month filled with the most events, emotions and big changes. It was a month where I really had to check in with myself, my feelings and what I wanted. And trust me that’s not always easy to do, but I made it out of February alive, feeling exactly like the person I’m meant to be, with a new job and a whole new passion and outlook for this year! Every weekend was jam-packed with adventures, music, catch ups and good times with some bloody good people.

Whilst last month I started two new jobs, this month saw me finish up at one of them. I was lucky enough to be offered a permanent role at UOW which I’ll be starting in March! So I guess next month will see some exciting new times coming as well! I guess this is a testament to the fact that in life, opportunities come and go and it’s up to you whether or not you grab them. Sometimes that means ‘letting people down’ but it also means giving yourself a chance. I guess the moral of sharing this is to say don’t ever accept anything mediocre. It’s not worth being unhappy, insecure and worried for the sake of other people’s feelings and expectations. Unfortunately, you’re the only one who can make these tough decisions, but I assure you, if you follow your heart, you will never let yourself down.

🏙️ Music Maddness

Laneway – Melbourne
Soph and I love our music and what better way to embrace some Aussie artists than heading to Laneway Festival. And to put a spin on it, we thought we’d hit up Melbourne! It was a great weekend filled with brunch, pints of beer (probably my favourite thing about Victoria!) and espresso martinis! There’s nothing like a weekend away, and I’m so glad I had my partner in crime there with me!

A Day on the Green – Hunter Valley
Dad, Elly, Soph and I decided to be fancy music goers, and head to A Day On The Green to watch Stella Donnely, Dan Sultan, Missy Higgins and John Butler Trio tear up the vineyards! We had a fair few bottles of wine, sang along to some of our faves, and enjoyed a bloody beautiful day on the green!

💕 1 year anniversary with Soph

Without sounding too cliché, the past year with Soph has been one of my favourite yet! We’ve had so many incredible adventures together and I’m so grateful for the relationship we’ve developed. I seriously never would have guessed that one year ago, the girl smiling at me from across RAD Bar would turn out to be my best friend, my roommate and my girlfriend. When things are right, you just know and man, things with Soph are damn right. Soph, thanks for the rad year we’ve had. I’m so grateful for everything you’ve given me and I can’t wait for our future together!

💖 Attending my brother’s ADFA march

Yes, my little brother Isaac has joined ADFA (Australian Defence Force Academy) and is living in Canberra. And no, I’m not crying you’re crying! Attending his march (look I’m sure it has an official name but I am a total military noob), was truly amazing. I’m really proud of what he’s doing and what he’s about to achieve. I seriously can’t believe he’s doing what he’s doing and it’s incredible that he’s so passionate about what he’s doing. I’m so proud of ya dude!

💁‍♀️ The Blonde Abroad Meetup

So back when I first started blogging and reading travel blogs, I came across two blogs that changed it all. One of them was World of Wanderlust (who I had the pleasure of meeting in 2015), and the other was The Blonde Abroad (aka Kiersten). Meeting one of your idols is a pretty surreal experience. Especially when they’re a world-renowned travel blogger. It’s strange to try and explain to your friends and family how much you look up to them (in a non-creepy fan-girl way). Following the journeys of bloggers is pretty personal. You get a glimpse of their lives, their families, their relationships and you admire them for taking such a huge leap and turning their passion for blogging into a career. So when Kiersten announced she would be hosting a meet up in Sydney, I knew I just had to go. Cruising along the harbour on a party boat with 15 like-minded girls from all over the world was pretty damn incredible. Of course, meeting and getting to chat with TBA was awesome, but I think it was just being in a group of women who are also passionate about blogging and intrigued about the world around us.

🎉Shenanigans

No month is complete without the love, support and adventures with my friends and family. I never want your enthusiasm and kindness to go unnoticed. So shout out to you for making all the hard times a little better, and the good times, amazing!

🎶Tunes

Almost (Sweet Music) by Hozier
Oooh this song is so so sweet! It’s feel good and makes you wanna sing along while you’re about to start a big adventure! It’s been on repeat lately and I LOVE IT!

Pussy is God by King Princess
Well I feel like I don’t have to explain why I love this song, but apart from the bomb ass title, it’s fun to sing and dance along to!

📽️ Flicks

Sex Education
OMG this show is GOLD! It is absolutely binge-worthy, cringey, hilarious, hits your right in the feels and bloody amazing! The casting is spot on and the characters are awesome. I watched this whilst I was bed bound after hurting my back (yes you read that correctly, I injured my back and became an 85-year-old woman for a week), and I’ve never watching something so quickly and with so much enthusiasm! Love love love! Bring on season 2!

📚Books

Eggshell Skull,by Bri Lee
I seriously could not put this book down. This book is the story of a young Judge’s Associate in Queensland. She travels around the state visiting district courts, working on horrific crimes, whilst dealing with some personal trauma. Seriously, this book is incredible, a must-read for anyone interested in Australia’s justice and criminal system, and for those interested in bringing down the patriarchy!

Dancing With Her
OK so whilst this LGBTQI+ Women in love, wedding magazine isn’t exactly a book, and it isn’t exactly my usual read (I swear I didn’t buy a wedding magazine for a wedding – just yet), I’m so glad I picked it up. I started following Dancing With Her on Instagram and then I started following their blog. Then after falling in love with their blog, I couldn’t get enough, so I bought their magazine. And it is the BEST MAGAZINE I’ve laid my hands on for a long time! The images are beautifully curated and I love the stories told. It’s hard to explain, but I think what I love about it the most is that I see part of my life and relationship reflected in this. I think back to all of the magazines I ever read about hetero couples and weddings, which contributed to my hetero-normative outlook on life. I LOVE this magazine, and what Dancing With Her stands for. Thank you for representing what I identify with and my idea of love!

📷 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders

Spirited Pursuit
Oh my lord how have I not stumbled across this bloggers site and insta before?! WOW! Lee Litumbe (or Spirited Pusuit) is making her way around the world, challenging our ideas of certain places and countries. In particular Africa. And damn my bucket list is getting longer and longer. Her blog posts are insightful, meaningful and inspiring. Her instagram feed is… well… goals. I am obsessed and have loved following her journey!

The Pineapple Project
I’ve really been enjoying this podcast because it’s all about money. And in all seriousness, money isn’t one of my strong points. I’m good at saving money when I’ve got something to look forward to, but if I don’t have a goal, I kinda struggle. I really like this podcast because it makes me think about money smartly, which I’m pretty stoked about.

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This month may have been the shortest one of the year, but it’s been jam-packed with emotions. Not necessarily in a bad way but just, well, in an emotional way. I’ve really been trying to acknowledge these feelings and emotions (which can be pretty confronting at times), respect them, and then let them go. There’s no use holding on to toxic emotions that drag you down. Whilst it’s something I’m still learning, and trying to get better at, respecting my emotions and really listening to not only what my heart wants, but what my soul wants, is making such a difference.

Wow, what a month! I seriously cannot believe what an insane month it’s been! I must admit I’m so looking forward to winding down a little and taking it easier in March. Though knowing me, and with a new job on the way, it’s unlikely it’ll be too chilled! Remember to look after yourself! Love ya!

8 Things I Love About Myself

Yep, you read the title right, this blog post is publicly owning up to the things I love about myself. And before you think, OMG here she goes, just think about the last time you had an open and honest conversation with yourself and thought ‘damn, I really love that about me!’ It’s probably been a while. In fact, some of you may never have actually verbalised the things that you love about yourself.

With Valentine’s Day come and gone, and it seems love is in the air. So I thought I would try this little exercise to show myself some self-love and challenge you to list 3 things you love about yourself!

I love being a redhead

I seriously believe that being a redhead is now a part of my identity. It’s funny because growing up I was teased and ridiculed for being a ranga. But now I freakin love it! I couldn’t imagine having any other hair colour. I love that I’m unique and stand out in a crowd (I don’t exactly love that it means I’m sensitive af to the sun but I guess that’s part of the package). I love that some of my best friends are redheads and seriously we are a force to be reckoned with.

I love that I have a healthy relationship with food

If you know me, then you know that I LOVE food. Food is a freakin way of life and I’m always looking forward to my next meal or snack. It makes me so sad when I see people who are self-conscious, picky or have a troubling relationship with food. Food is literally fuel for your body. We need it. So we might as well enjoy it! Of course, eating a balanced diet is crucial but I don’t see the point in beating yourself up about having that extra row of chocolate (or eating the whole block). Or cutting yourself off from some delicious French cheese. Or saying no to that fourth slice of pizza. Seriously, life is too short not to enjoy the goodness of food.

I love my passion

I am an incredibly passionate person. I get excited about the littlest of things. If you’re going to do a job then you might as well do it the best you can. And for me, that means being passionate about my work, my commitments and activities. When I get behind a cause, there’s no stopping me!

I love that I am supportive

I’ve always said that I’m the best secondary someone could have. I think it’s because I don’t always like leading the way and being out in front, but I can absolutely get behind someone, push them, believe in them and enjoy their success. Whether it be my friends business selling coasters, cards and cheese boards, my friends earring business, my friends band, my friends music performance, their race, their new job, their upcoming travel, their engagement… I am 110% there! I love the people that surround me and I genuinely believe in people and I want to see them succeed.

I love my curves

Oh baby this has taken a long time but I feel that I’m finally in a place where I love my body and I really couldn’t imagine myself not having curves. I feel like I’ve ‘grown in’ to my body and I feel like a woman. It’s pretty damn awesome and it’s something I’m sharing because I think we all need to have better relationships with our bodies. This isn’t to say that ‘I’m hot’ or that I think I have a perfect body – of course I have insecurities. Everyone does. But when I love my body I feel so much better in every other aspect of my life than when I hate it. We have to believe that we’re given our body for a reason and we simply have to own it.

I love that I’m ‘Worldly’

Some of you may not know that A Worldly Addiction, started as a travel blog to share my experiences galavanting around Europe. But it was also created with the idea of exploring new ways of thinking and new experiences. I love that I’ve had the opportunity to travel and study overseas. I love my curious and inquisitive nature. I love that I’ve been to many beautiful countries and I love that I have many more on my bucket list.

I love that I can have long-distant friendships

OK so I generally hate having to say goodbye to friends and it sucks not being able to see them regularly, but one thing I’m proud of is my ability to maintain friendships across the seven seas and for years. I’m really secure in my friendships and I know the value of my relationships. I feel so lucky to have incredible friends no matter the time or distance.

I love my empathy and vulnerability

I think I’ve got a really great sense of empathy – in fact – sometimes a little too much. I’m highly emotional, and yes I cry from time to time, but like to believe it’s because I’m able to put myself in other people’s shoes. No matter the situation, I can stay calm and respectful of people’s feelings and experiences. And I love the fact that I’m vulnerable and open about my own feelings and experiences – heck, I’m dedicating this whole post to it!

Over to you…

I challenge you to share at least 3 things you love about yourself!

10 Thoughts and Life Hacks After Commuting To Sydney (For A Month).

So I recently started a job working in Sydney’s CBD. Yep, the big smoke! The only catch is, I live in Wollongong, 90 minutes away. Whilst I really can’t complain as I’m only commuting 3 days a week, and yes I’ve only been doing it for a month, consider these my top 10 tips for your commute from a novice commuter.

1- Noise-cancelling headphones are a must
I recently invested in some Bose noise-cancelling headphones and this could possibly be the best investment of 2019! I can put these baby’s on and disappear into my own world. They are perfect for losing track of time listening to a new podcast, banging along to a new album or even the occasional snooze.

2- I will never be able to wear heels to work
How the hell do women wear heels to work? I see some wear sandals and change into heels on the train but then I see women get on the train with heels on! OMG how?! And not just heels, stilettos! Kudos to you business women. Kudos to you.

3- Get yourself a routine
My mornings look a little like this, I put on a podcast, I write in my journal and I have a little nap. On the way home I read my book until I get too tired and then play Suduko. I know, wild routine hey! But I find that it’s so easy to stare out the window, listen to albums you’ve listened to 50 times before, and waste this precious time. Your time is precious so it’s important that you make the most of it. Plus I get to tick off some self-care, me items for the day. It feels pretty damn good.

4- Run baby run
How do people go for lunchtime runs around the Opera House and go back to work an hour later cool calm and collected? Do these people have genetically modified genes? If that was me I would be red, hot, sweaty and unable to show my face in a professional setting again! I’m quite happy sipping my iced long blacks in the sunshine and watching these people run on by.

*accurate image of me after a run*

5- Coffee, coffee, coffee
There are so many incredible coffee shops right at your doorstep, don’t settle for just one! One of my favourite ways to make the commute fun is to plan where I’ll stop by for a coffee on the way to work. I’ve come across a few great gems and I’m excited to find more! It almost makes the overpriced coffee and sub-par service bearable.

6- On that note, why don’t more people use keep cups?
Perhaps living in environmentally friendly Wollongong has created a bit of a bubble with what I assume is normal, everyday practice. I am seriously shocked at how many people don’t use keep cups! I walk past hundreds of people on their way to and from work with coffee in their hand. These people, I’m assuming have worked in the CBD for some time now, and they go to their regular places and get their regular coffees, but don’t bring their own cup? Seriously it is the easiest thing in the world and the planet will thank you for it. Just when you think we’re getting somewhere, you realise that the challenge ahead is far greater than we anticipated.

If you want a cool reusable coffee cup and/or drink bottle, check out Frank Green!

7- Which book will I read next?
Probably my favourite thing about commuting is the dedicated reading time I give myself. In all seriousness, when did you last give yourself time to sit and read for a solid 90 minutes? I barely got to read for 30 minutes before bed and now I am flying through books. I’m currently reading Eggshell Skull, and not only is the book incredible but all of this thinking and completely losing myself in books makes the trip fly! It leaves me asking what’s next on the reading list?!

8- Lunch views never looked so good
Ok so I may have gone a little overboard with the Insta stories and my ‘lunch views’ tag. But seriously, when the Sydney Harbour Bridge and the Opera House are literally on your front door, you can’t just turn your head and have lunch in your office! One thing I’ve committed to taking seriously is giving myself a break whilst at work. Last year I often found myself in the disgusting habit of eating my lunch at my desk. There is seriously nothing like taking a 30-45 minute lunch break, getting some fresh air, going for a stroll, reading a book or just watching people pass you by. It will honestly leave you feeling like a new person when you waltz on back into your office ready to get you through to 5pm.

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9- Sydney is so multicultural and I love it
I love people watching. It’s a great way to pass the time and I love conjuring up back stories for all of the faces passing me by. And something I love about working in the city is the diversity present in all of the people that pass me by. It’s so exciting and it’s a reminder of how cool diversity is. And I mean this in a genuine way. It’s awesome to live in a global city, to be influenced by other cultures, to learn about new ways of life and share insights into your way of life. It’s inspiring to know that so many people like to call Sydney, or Australia, home. I love feeling like I am a total stranger, yet completely at home in a city, where you can be the best or weirdest version of yourself and people accept you. It’s fucking awesome.

10- Sydney is a bloody beautiful place. 
Wow. We are so lucky to live so close and work in the heart of Sydney. Sydney really is gorgeous. There’s not many cities in the world that have so much natural beauty surrounding the hustle and bustle of the CBD. I know I may still be looking at this all with starry eyes, but I can’t shake it. It’s pretty incredible to look out our office windows and see the Harbour Bridge. It’s amazing to be able to have my lunch break overlooking the Opera House. And I feel pretty damn lucky to have the experience of working in the CBD. Commute and all.

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These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: JANUARY 2019

Oh January, what a crazy month you are! Everyone’s making jokes about how they haven’t seen you all year, scribbling out 8’s and changing them to 9’s in their diaries, and people saying that they’ll start their new year resolutions next year instead. January was a hectic month, especially when you start 2019 in one of the most hectic cities on earth, Tokyo. Between starting two new jobs, moving and finishing a whirlwind trip around Japan, January was pretty great!

🍣 Japan

So I started the year with an absolute bang! New Years Eve in Tokyo followed by a whirlwind trip through the magical streets of Tokyo and a journey into a snowglobe to see the snow monkeys! A Japan travel blog is coming your way soon – so watch this space!

🏠Moving

OK so I’d go as far to say that I don’t think anyone enjoys moving, but when you’re moving in with your girlfriend and two best friends, there’s a lot to be happy about! It’s actually a pretty big deal moving in with your significant other and it’s pretty damn awesome! Ah it’s just bliss!!

💼Starting new jobs

When one door closes, another one opens. And sometimes two open. This month I started two jobs. Still at UOW but in vastly different areas. In one, I’m an event coordinator, and the second, social media manager and website editor. It’s so awesome getting experience in all different areas because it’s helping me answer the age-old question of what I want to do with my life and what sort of career I want. I’m so excited that I get the opportunity to work in these vastly different areas until I figure out exactly what I want to do.

🎉Getting back in the swing of things

A new year means new adventures and new opportunities for shenanigans. I’ve only been back in the gong and back in action for a few weeks, but I’ve already had some lovely (and wild) times with some of the people I love the most.

 🎶 Tunes

Juice, by Lizzo 
So if this song doesn’t get you up and moving about, I don’t know what will! This pop anthem is exactly what I needed to get through this crazy month with a smile on my face and soul inspired dance moves!

Party Pill, by Cub Sport
Ooooh baby I am in love with this song and all of Cub Sport’s new album! I have had it on repeat for days (probably annoying the hell out of all my house mates), but it’s just so beautiful! I can’t help but sing along and feel overjoyed when listening to it!

 🎥 Flicks

Crazy Rich Asians
I finally got around to watching Crazy Rich Asians!!! When it first came out I was dying to get to watch it, and now only a few months later, and strapped to a plane I finally got around to watching it! It’s feel good, it’s fun and it ticked all my hopeless romantic boxes.

📚Books

The Last Girl, by Nadia Murad
Wow this book is essential to anyone who is interested in women’s rights, conflict and international relations. Nadia recounts her enslavement and torture under ISIS after being taken away from her small town in Iraq. I think this book is an absolute must for anyone slightly confused by the situation in Iraq, she does an incredible job explaining the conflict. She also recounts her horrific experiences with control and grace. It’s intense and awful, but it’s real and I urge you to read it as well.

When Breath Becomes Ari, by Paul Kalanithi
I have never been so confronted by my own mortality before reading this book. This book tells the story of a neurosurgeon who is diagnosed with lung cancer and his journey to face and accept his own mortality. It’s beautifully written and I promise it will inspire some deep thoughts and reflections for everyone who reads it.

The Art of Travel, by Alain de Botton
OK so I actually read this in December and I forgot to include it in my favourite things list (woops!). But this absolutely deserved its own mention and praise. For anyone with itchy feet and a serious case of the travel bug, you will love this book. There are so many moments that deeply struck me and made me reflect on why I travel, where I travel to, when I travel and what I get out of it. I would absolutely recommend it before your next trip and I assure you, you will experience travel profoundly differently.

📸 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders

George Ezra and friends
Yep, George Ezra has a podcast and it’s actually good! I know that celebrities cop a lot of shit for having their own podcasts and interviewing other celebrities, but this is genuinely entertaining and informative. If you’re vaguely a fan of George Ezra and have an interest in the music industry and what it’s like touring, producing albums and dealing with fame, you’ll find this hits the spot!

📝 Quote

January saw some pretty powerful movement in the stars. So I set my intentions for the year and put them out into the universe. My most valued intention for 2019 was to put myself first. And no, not in a selfish, shallow way, but a deep and profound way. Pursue my interests, goals, ambitions, respect that my thoughts and feelings and important and valuable, and look after myself. This month was filled with a lot of change and I think February will allow me to sift through the settled dust and make sense of where I’m at. I’m really bloody looking forward to it!

Thank you January for showing me what I can do and achieve in such a short amount of time. I feel so grateful for my mind, body and spirit and I am determined to not only protect it but grow, learn and challenge myself. February, let’s do this!

These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: December 2018

Wow! What an insane month. As I mentioned last month, December is the craziest month of them all. Christmas mania kicks into full swing, everyone’s finishing uni, lease’s are ending, people are shopping and families require attention. Thankfully, the silly season is over and I can finally take a moment to myself and reflect on the month (and year) that has been.

☂️ Makin Gravy

If you’ve ever seen me see Paul Kelly at a festival, you’ll know I’m a pretty big fan. So you could image my stoked levels when Sophie’s family bought me a ticket to come along with them to his Making Gravy mini-festival in Sydney. Unfortunately, the sky decided to make a huge storm. Luckily we were prepared with ponchos, beers and plenty of good times. It was a great night dancing in the mud and singing along to the one and only, Mr Paul Kelly. I’m so grateful to have shared that awesome experience with the Washingtons and I can’t wait for next time.

⛩️ Japan

Where do you even begin to try and explain the wonders of Japan. Seriously, Japan is one of the most ‘wow’ countries I’ve ever been to. Everything is a sensation overload. The lights, the sounds, the smells, it’s all pretty damn incredible. And it’s a truly beautiful country. The people are so friendly and helpful, the mountains and countryside is gorgeous and the cities are wild with energy. A highlight for me definitely has to be our adventure out to Nagano and the Snow Monkey Forest. The little town we stayed in was called Yamanouchi, which was essentially a winter Wonderland. A full blog post on our Japan itinerary will be coming soon (so watch this space)!

🎁Christmas Festivities

It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Well I had your not so average Christmas. I was in Japan for Christmas (and yes it was snowing #magical). So I was lucky enough to celebrate Christmas with friends and family before I headed overseas. So thank you to everyone who made these Christmas festivities so memorable.

 🎶 Tunes

Bill Murray – Phantogram
Oooh I have had this song on repeat! I first stumbled upon it whilst watching The Bold Type and this song played during a really emotive scene. So naturally, this song just evokes a whole sense the good ol feels.

Prism of love – Blakey Jones feat. JONES
This is another slow, chill and emotive song (maybe I was really feeling in touch with my emotions this month?). Either way, I freakin love this song and think it’s just gorgeous. I don’t really have more to add than just go and get your ears on it.


📽️ Flicks

Dumplin
I must have been in a ‘chic flick’ kinda mood when I watched this because I seriously enjoyed every second! It’s a feel good kinda movie with freakin Jennifer Aniston! Need I say more? The main character (Dumplin) is so likeable and you’ll find yourself rooting for her the whole movie. You’ll especially love this movie if you like country music, more specifically, Dolly Parton.

Nappily Ever After
I really loved this movie! It tells the story of a successful and ‘perfect’ woman named Violet. When her perfect life comes crashing down, her relationship with her hair challenges her further, gives her strength, and helps forge a new identity. I loved how it didn’t revolve around the love story and she didn’t give up her new found identity and independence for a man. This is a great feel good movie, with important messages for all women no matter what their hair status is.

Books

All The Light We Cannot See, by Anthony Doerr
This book has been on my reading list for quite some time now. And I have to admit, the 500+ pages were pretty intimidating. But there’s nothing quite like a holiday to help you get through a big book like this one. I must admit, I’m not sure it lived up to all the hype (but to be fair, there was quite a lot of hype). That being said it is a gorgeous story that evokes a lot of emotions and senses. Once I started reading it I found it hard to stop. 

The Alice Network, by Kate Quinn
My lovely colleague lent this book to me and I seriously couldn’t be more thankful. I love it when you borrow a book from someone because it’s such a good incentive to try and get it done asap so that you can return it to them! This book is based on a number of true stories about a network of female spies during WWI and WWII. If you, like me, love seeing heroines be powerful, intelligent and motivated women, then you will love this book. And um hello – spies!

Burial Rites, by Hannah Kent
I must have really bee loving my female heroines this month when it came to reading. This is a gorgeous book! First thing, it’s set in Iceland! Second thing, it’s based on a real story. And third, the character development is really clever and beautiful. By the end I was nearly in tears and it really pulled on all of my heart strings.

📷 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders

The Dream (podcast)
Whilst travelling around Japan, I found myself absolutely hooked to The Dream. It’s an investigative podcast into the world of multi-level marketing and strong analysis of pyramid schemes. When I first heard about it I thought it would not be my cup of tea, but the host is excellent and it’s brilliantly produced. I love it when people make you care about something you never even knew about. This podcast has made me question soooooo many things when it comes to MLM’s and the ways in which companies capitalise on people’s desperate dreams to become rich and successful. Would absolutely recommend!

📝 Quote

This month (and next year), something I’ve really been focusing on is looking after myself. It’s so easy to get caught up in everyone else’s drama, lives and mess, and meanwhile, we’re just treading water to keep afloat. In all honesty, I’m sick of constantly sacrificing my thoughts, my feelings, my time and my effort for people who have no respect or consideration for me. I’ve always been that person who’s worried about what someone might think and how they might react, but I’m the one who ends up suffering in silence. I feel like I’m a better person to myself and the people around me when I speak up and stand up for myself. I know that I would go above and beyond for the people I love, but if people aren’t willing to do that for me, well you can forget it. Don’t try and walk over me because I’m walking into 2019 with a whole lot of self-respect and love, and I won’t let anyone get in my way.

December was a truly crazy month and in all honesty, I’m kinda glad it’s over. So many adventures, so many incredible memories and so many days that flew by in a blink of an eye. My blog post for my 2018 favourites is coming soon (watch this space), plus my ‘what I want to achieve in 2019’ post. But for the time being, I’m looking forward to heading into January with some new found peace, hopefully a slower pace and a deep sense of excitement for the year ahead. I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and holiday season.

2019 better watch out, I’m coming for ya!

2018: The year of challenges and change (+ chics)

This year has been a tough one. And it’s not just me, every other person I talk to seems to have had a pretty challenging year. Maybe there was something in my horoscope in January that could have mentally prepared me for what was to come, but in all honesty, I don’t think anything could have prepared me for what 2018 threw at me. And in all fairness, if you had told me what was coming in 2018, I quite frankly wouldn’t have believed you.

It’s crazy how much your life can change in the space of a year. Rewind to December 2017 I had finished my first degree, things were getting serious with my boyfriend, I was working in client service and living with two mates. Not only has so much happened this year, but the Adelaide that sits here writing this post, is not the same Adelaide who walked into 2018, and is now striding into 2019.

2018 has shaped me in ways that I couldn’t have imagined. Despite every challenge encountered, I seriously wouldn’t change it for the world. I have learnt so much about myself and the world. I have grown stronger, more independent, more fearless and more ME! So I thought I would share with you some moments that shaped my year.

Thank u, next

Breakups suck. There’s really not too much more to that story to add that I haven’t already written. But what I can add is that whilst at the time it was a horrible experience of deceit, pain and betrayal, I have laid those feelings to rest. Holding onto negativity just poisons me, like a toxic chemical leaking into a pristine ocean (me being the pristine ocean of course). Yes, it takes time for the heart to heal and for forgiveness to flourish but it happens, even if it happens slowly.

And as much as I wish I wasn’t quoting Ariana Grande right now, I’m so fucking grateful for my ex, because if it didn’t end the way it did, I may have never met the completely undiscovered part of myself and my beautiful girlfriend Sophie.

I wanna girl

Surprised may be an understatement for how to describe my friend’s reaction to my enlightened sexuality. Some may call it coming out, other’s just call it finally being true to yourself. I wrote an article about my sexuality and my experience coming to terms with who I am, and I am still amazed by how well received that post was.

I’ve always been an open and honest person who enjoys sharing my life online. And Soph is absolutely no exception. If I’m allowed to give myself a pat on the back, I’m really proud of myself for accepting myself and being kind to myself throughout a process that can take months if not years to accept. It just goes to show that incredible things can happen when you give yourself a little love, and open yourself up to love as well. Soph, you are without a doubt the biggest highlight of 2018. You are my partner in crime and I seriously don’t want anyone else but you. I wanna girl and her name is Sophie.

Stupid little houses

Who knew that moving out of a house was the hardest part? This year I was involved in a 9 month battle to keep our bond. And like all traumatic things in my life, I wrote all about the ordeal. In all seriousness, this is one of the most stressful things I’ve ever experienced in my life. Everytime I thought about the situation my body would flood with stress, nerves and anxiety, concocting a toxic bubble in my gut. I hated that I had to go through this and I often found myself asking, ‘why me?’

But like many things in life, you can’t always control the situation, and you have to give in to the fact that shit things happen. Despite the pain of this experience, I learnt soooo much! I learnt that there are bad, greedy and selfish people in the world who will stop at nothing to bring you down. I learnt that organisation is key! I learnt what my values really are, realizing I value my time and wellbeing way more than money. And I learnt that friends and family are your most important support system.

Work work work…

This year I completed my Honours thesis in International Studies. I graduated with Class 2, Division 1 Honours and received an 85 for my thesis. I am so proud of myself. And considering that I worked 4 days a week in a new job in my field of study (communications and media), I can do it all.

Completing Honours was something I was always a bit unsure about. I thought it was reserved to those crazy high achievers and honestly just thought I couldn’t accomplish such a mammoth task. I am so grateful that my supervisor believed in me and pushed me to achieve completing my Honours degree. I was also very fortunate to go through the works of Honours with my friend Jack.

By completing Honours, I not only learnt so much about the actual topic I was researching (‘Illegal’ immigrants in the US), but I learnt about my work ethic, my determination to not only make my supervisor proud, but make myself proud, and to believe in myself and my ability without comparing myself to others. Far out I learnt a lot through degree number 3!

Comparisonitis

I know that everyone goes through phases of comparing themselves to others, but this year I’ve found myself comparing myself to who I think I should be. Is it just me, or do other people experience this too? I guess when I was a little girl I used to think about my life and what I would do, besides the whole stereotypical, ‘get married, have kids, become an expert baker.’ I think it’s important to have high standards and high expectations of yourself, but not to the point that it’s making you upset or unsatisfied with what you have!

That’s where gratitude and mindfulness come in. If you couldn’t already tell, this year has been a little insane and one of the ways I’ve managed to get through it all is to be bloody thankful and take a deep breath. We are so lucky to live this life. Everything else is a bonus. If someone makes you happy, spend more time with them. If someone makes you feel worthless or stressed, take a step away from them. If your job gives you satisfaction, stop scrolling for jobs on SEEK. If your house feels safe, secure and like home, stop looking over your neighbours fence. And of course, never believe anything you see on Instagram.

I’ve learnt this year that life is what it is and your life is no one else’s responsibility but yours. You are in control of your happiness, your fate, your income, your wellbeing and your passion. Don’t you dare ever take that for granted.

2019… the year of…

Hindsight is a blessing. It is only now that I can say, ‘Wow, 2018 was the year of challenges and change (and chics).’ Moving in to 2019 I am incredibly optimistic. With my studies over and more time to focus on my savings, my blog, my creativity, my relationships and my sense of adventure, I promise to seize each opportunity with excitement and enthusiasm.

Who knows where I will end up in a years time. But I can promise you that I will be happy, I will be brave and I will be stronger than ever.