Go on a solo trip, thank me later

We all know that 2020 has been a pretty tumultuous year. Things have been moving so quickly yet painstakingly slow. Everyone and everything is uncertain, and the world has changed in ways we didn’t see coming. So when it came to taking a week off work, the only thing that could possibly be nearly as enticing as an overseas holiday, is the thought of spending a few nights, by myself.

Since my return and my attempt to remain in the hazy, daydream of a cloud I felt I was floating on, lots of people have asked me about my time away. The overwhelming majority of people were shook that I would book an airbnb to myself, quickly followed by, ‘wow that sounds serene.’ I’m here to tell you – it was serene and these are the reasons you should book a little getaway for yourself as soon as possible.

When was the last time you did nothing?

Seriously, think about it. When was the last time you didn’t have somewhere to be, someone to meet, some timeline or deadline? When you can do what you want, when you want. When was the last time you laid on a pool chair and gazed up at the clouds floating overhead? Where you watched how the light turned from orange to pink? When you felt the cool change wash over you body as the sun set? When was the last time you just let time pass? No podcasts, no music, no phone calls, no pressure?

Daring to be present

There’s a lot of talk about being present and gratitude. Which can often take the back seat when we are stressed at work and in life. Being truly present can be scary, especially if you’re on your own. Sitting with and facing all the thoughts and feelings that you had pushed away, or weren’t quite ready to confront. It’s emotional, it take courage and it’s truly transformative.

What kind of cult did I sign up to where I thought that work was the be all and end all of everything?

Life is more important than work

What kind of cult did I sign up to where I thought that work was the be all and end all of everything? Having worked from home since March, there’s been a blurring of professional and personal life. Don’t get me wrong, I am very grateful for my job, for the people I work with and the fact that I’m able to work from home. But in 2020, work has become stressful, tiring, exhausting and taken over (it’s literally taken over my dining room). Why is the thought of turning on ‘out of office’ emails for a few days so radical?

By stepping away and taking a deep breath, I’ve realised the crazy idea that life is fucking important. Put yourself first. In 10 years time will your boss remember the time you stayed back an extra hour? Unlikely. Get your work done, work hard, make yourself proud, then log the fuck off and get outside to enjoy your life.

If you need a day off, take it. If you need to take an extra long lunch, do it. Work-life balance is supposed to be give and take, but work is greedy. Take time back for yourself.

Do what’s important to you

The best thing about a solo trip away, is that you don’t need to think about what anyone else wants to do. No compromising on whether you want Italian or Japanese, no having to wait around or rush along, no having to consider anyone but yourself. In life we’re always juggling what we want along with what other people want. What makes other people happy. Well forget about it darling, this trip is all about you and making yourself happy. Want to sleep in til 10am and get a bacon and egg roll for brekky? Do it! Want to go for a 10km walk? Do it! The moral of the story is that you get to do whatever you want to do. You’ll be surprised at how foreign and good it feels.

Let your mind run wild

I realised that I didn’t speak to anyone except the person I ordered coffee from, for 3 days. How did I fill the time you ask? How did I not go crazy? I let my mind run wild. I felt like a kid again, someone who was coming up with crazy, big ideas, who was looking at things with a fresh perspective, someone who was curious and driven. In everyday life, we’re so bound by time, deadlines an commitments… suddenly having none of those meant that my mind could explore thoughts and ideas I hadn’t had the chance. And not just explore but actually change the way in which I fundamentally think about things (like why do I try so hard for everyone to like me?).

The most important thing…

Now that I’ve convinced you that you need to book a solo trip away, let me just say this. Look after yourself. Stay safe and prioritise yourself. It’s not often we’re given permission to do so, but sometimes you just have to give yourself permission to take deep, true care of yourself. 3 nights away was perfect, I think if I spent an additional 3 nights away, I would have got even more clarity from my past and directing me in the right direction for the future.

Do yourself a favour, book a solo trip. You’re welcome.

These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: DECEMBER 2017

Surprise surprise… I’m surprised about this month flying by again. Seriously though… where do the days go? December is always a pretty special time of year, Christmas, family, New Years Eve, thinking about next year and trying not to freak out, plus trying not to over indulge in all that Christmas food… it’s eventful and a lot of hard work! So let’s look back on the crazy month that was December!

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🚐 Western Australia Road Trip

There is honestly nothing like exploring your own back yard. And when your back yard is Australia and freakin huge… there’s a lot to explore! We were lucky enough to journey over to Western Australia for a week to visit our friend Josie in her home town of Manjimup and thought we’d turn this incredible invitation into a little road trip! We got a wicked van, and hopped down the coast. It was absolutely incredible and I’m so glad for all of the memories!

🕺🏻Melbourne Escape

As if one interstate escape wasn’t enough, Mitch and I jetted off to Melbourne for a weekend to see PAUL KELLY, GANG OF YOUTHS, MEG MAC & GRETTA RAY! What an epic concert! It was so nice to getaway (again) and discover another city with Mitch!

 

⛵ Sydney to Hobart Hype!

So my incredibly talented boyfriend is also a sailor. And a pretty good one because he did the Sydney to Hobart! He raced in Black Sheep and I was lucky enough to see him off in Sydney! I got to check out the yacht and get in amongst the hustle and bustle of it all!

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🏠 Home

Christmas means home and home means good food, good people and good times. It was so amazing to catch up with old friends, family and my dogs!

🎶 Tunes

Slow Mover – Angie McMahon. This tune has been on absolute repeat!! Her voice is so different and hypnotising that this is a must for all of those indie Aussie music lovers out there.

Jude – Didirri. Mitch got me onto this song and naturally, every time we get into the car it’s the first song we put on. Another Aussie artist absolutely killing it!

 📗Books

Sad news guys… I didn’t finish any books this month! What have I been doing?! To be fair, I’m half way through The Blind Assassin by Margaret Atwood (not sure I’ll finish it to be honest). But I’ve also been reading a lot of journal articles for my thesis for next year. No excuse I know but that’s what I’ve been reading. Gotta pick up my game next month!

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🎥 Flicks

The Crown – Season 2. Wow this show is actually soooooo good! I binge watched season 2 in about a week and I truly didn’t want it to end. I loved discovering and uncovering more about the royal family (doesn’t everyone) and it was so stunningly put together. Queen Elizabeth was a badass! So maybe that’s why I loved it so much.

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📷 Bloggers and Vloggers

I’ve been indulging in my ‘usual’ YouTubers this past month…. Flying the Nest, Logan Paul, Raya Was Here etc. I’m a huge fan of Tim Kellner however he’s one of Youtube’s ‘quality over quantity’ guys. This month he released the video below ‘Paradise Lost’ and it is incredibly mesmerising, captivating and innovative. His video’s always leave me inspired and challenged and this one is no exception.

📝 Quote

“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual” – Mohadesa Najumi

Ah this quote gets me. So often I seek other people’s approval, agreeability and acceptance. And so often I left confused and worried that I won’t live up to other people’s expectations. It’s so important to listen to yourself, trust your instincts, ask for advice and guidance when necessary but at the end of the day… it’s your life and you gotta own it!

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Well it looks like 2017 is over and 2018 will be off to a flying start very soon…. I absolutely cannot wait!