These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: NOVEMBER 2018

The scariest thing about November being over is that it’s now DECEMBER! How the heck did that happen? I must admit, December is one of my favourite months. It’s sunnier for longer, people are happy, festive and cheery and everyone’s optimistic about the new year. But before I get too ahead of myself, let’s look back on the whirlwind month of November.

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☕ Little fam date in Sydney

Unfortunately I don’t get to see my family much because of my busy work and social life commitments. But I was stoked when Mum and Elly agreed to meet me in Sydney for a lunch date. Sometimes you don’t need to do anything big and wild, you just need to have a long lunch and a good ol catch up. We wandered through Glebe and found a leafy courtyard to enjoy some coffee. It was such a nice day we ordered a snack, and then lunch, and then more coffee. It was one of those effortless, organic conversations that didn’t want to end. I’m so grateful for these moments and cherish my family so so much.

💡 Getting a HD for my thesis

So I finally received my results for my thesis and……. High Distinction!!! I seriously could not believe it! I had a dream when I was abroad that I got a 73. Not that that’s a bad mark but I was at least aiming for a 75 (distinction). The fact that I got an 85 (HD) blew my mind! It’s crazy because now I feel like I’m actually finished! What a mammoth project! All of my hard work has been recognised and I’ve been rewarded for it.

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🇮🇩 Bali

So if you were following me on Instagram (and if you’re not… what are you doing?!), you would know that I spent two weeks in Bali with my girlfriend. It. Was. AMAZING! Honestly, I couldn’t have imagined a holiday so perfect. There will be an entire post dedicated to our travel itinerary and highlights from the trip (so watch this space). But a highlight I can share with you would be swimming with manta rays in Nusa Penida and staying at an incredible boutique hotel in Uluwatu called Mû. I never really had the urge to go to Bali because I thought it was too touristy, too this and too that. But I can honestly say it is the perfect destination because you can make it whatever you want it to be. Stay tuned for more.

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🎶 Tunes

I’ll still have me – CYN
So I recently came across this song on YouTube and I am in love! She’s so sweet and cute and this song is just amazing!

Ocean – Martin Garrix and Khalid
I’m not normally into this music but I love the emotions behind this song. You can bop along to it and I picture it as an epic montage song.

🎥 Flicks

The Letdown
Not that I’m a mother, but if I was I reckon this would be #relatable. It’s a short little show that you can find on Netflix. It’s funny, confronting and at some times, hilarious. The women share intimate insights into the somewhat mysterious world of motherhood (at least for someone where motherhood seems like a lifetime away).

The Bold Type
Ahhhhh #lifegoals! This series is incredible! I may have accidentally watched the entirety of season 2 in one day (I was sick in bed) but damn is this a great show. It’s witty, classy, political, sassy and downright AMAZING! I consider it a bit of a mix between Sex and the City and Younger and hello, sign me up!

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📗 Book

Like Water for Chocolate, by Laura Esquivel
A work colleague was kind enough to lend me this book. I don’t usually read fiction, especially a book that revolves around cooking. But this is a sensory delight. I love the way it ignites our primal sense of taste and smell through describing traditional Mexican dishes. A passionate story of love, cooking and family, this gorgeous little read is a lovely escape.

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Can We All Be Feminists? by June Eric-Udorie
THIS. IS. A. MUST. READ! OMG I absolutely loved this book! 17 essays about intersectional feminism that will challenge your ideas of feminism and get you thinking about your privilege, power and own brand of feminism. I particularly loved the chapter on immigration policy and gender inequality (PhD anyone?!). Love love love!

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Paris Echo, by Sebastian Faulks
So this isn’t my usual kind of book but it’s a good one! I’ve found lately that it’s crucial to mix up your reading and reading fiction is actually really important. I really loved this narrative and the two characters you become immersed in. I actually found it incredibly interesting because I had studied some of these moments of time in my French history class. Particularly regarding the independence of Algeria and Algerians in Paris. If you’re not across this incredibly important piece of French history, you’ll find this incredibly insightful. And if you love Paris, then you will love this book. 00117563-400x400.jpeg

📷 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders (yep Podders is a thing).

The Cut on Tuesdays
This is cutting-edge! I absolutely love it. They talk about such pressing issues facing women every day. One of my favourite episodes is about pubes and wow I never knew that I needed that in my life! An absolute must for those of you interested in women’s rights, experiences and journeys throughout life.

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📝 Quote

Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up with what you should be doing and comparing yourself to other people and where they’re up to in life. But something I love the most about holidays is that you’re completely disconnected from ‘reality’ back home (or at least you try to only check your emails once a day). When you’re in a foreign country and everything is new, I have an overwhelming sense of this is exactly where I am meant to be right now. And it’s beautiful. Embracing the now and the moment is really difficult for a lot of people. The simplicity of enjoying the moment is sometimes not so simple. But when you’re travelling, you notice the flowers, the streets, the sky, the smell and you take a deep breath and feel it. It’s something I will try to carry with me back to ‘reality.’

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So November, you were wildly amazing and I feel so blessed for the opportunities that came my way this month. I am sooooo looking forward to December to see friends and family, celebrate, be festive, cheery and embrace the now – right before I head off on my next trip… do you know where I’m going? Stay tuned!

Girl Code

Being a woman is freakin awesome! We are kind, intelligent, nurturing, we can grow humans inside of us … plus we have boobs! How fun is that?! But there’s a side to being a woman that is extremely difficult and is something I am sadly reminded of daily. Despite it being two thousand and freakin eighteen, we still live in a sexist, misogynistic, abusive and discriminatory society (if this is a surprise to you, then please take a moment to read about gender inequality within Australia). Us ladies put up with a lot of shit, particularly from the men. So us girls, we gotta band together and stick it to the man. And to do so, there’s a girl code. It’s kind of like the unwritten rules of sisterhood that I know you know what I’m talking about.

I admire all women. But over the past month, I’ve been exposed to the highs and lows of the girl code, and damn us females sure are interesting beautiful creatures.

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I was in a relationship not long ago. He got offered a sick job in another state, and like any supportive human, encouraged him to go. I think we were coming to the end of our relationship. Like milk you splash on your cereal a day or two after its expired, it’s risky business to keep using it. Maybe it’s my inner optimist, but I had faith that the milk would be fine to use. So we decided to stay together until he left and then we’d reassess the situation. Leading up to it, we decided to make the most of it, put our worries away and just enjoy each others company. Maybe a lot of pressure was removed by the fact that I knew he was moving away. Or maybe I was in denial that he could hurt me so badly.

I was driving home from a friends party when I received a message on Facebook from a friend.

“Hey Adelaide, are you still with your boyfriend?”

“Hey girl, yea I am. Haha. Why do you ask?”

Do you ever have those moments when you think you’re in a movie? Like this couldn’t possibly be real and you look around to see if there’s a camera. Or desperately look at your best friend in the drivers seat, looking for a sign that this is just some sick joke? I yearned for that sign, and in the absence of it, I knew that this was real.

It’s funny how guys are so captivated by their own dicks, that they think women want to hear about how much they want to shove it inside them. Tinder is a funny thing.

But this isn’t about my relationship. Because like any level-headed woman, I confronted him and said that I deserve better. He’s not deserving of my tears, heart ache or words. This is about girl code. 

My immediate concern was my friend that had unknowingly and unwillingly been dragged into this awkwardly horrible situation. What a brave bad ass bitch! Can you imagine being in that situation? I certainly can’t. How easy would it have been to dust off your hands and say ‘oh hell no, this is none of my dirty business?!’ Or how anxious she would have felt reaching out to me? Or how worried she would feel about how I would react? This woman is the definition of respect, strength, honesty and consideration. I was absolutely blown away by how much respect she showed me, but also that she showed herself. Sometimes the right thing to do is uncomfortable and it may seem like none of your business. But you can really change people’s lives when you’re guided by the mysterious wonders of girl code. 

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But then maybe there’s women out there that don’t get it. Or don’t care, or are too focused on doing them, that they kinda miss the essential nature of girl code. I’ve known a girl for a few years. I remember the first time I met her, I was mesmerized by her energy, intelligence, creativity and strength. She was a bad ass bitch! Over the years, she’s been someone in my life that I’ve looked up to and strived to be like.

I guess there’s really no right way to hook up with your friend’s ex-boyfriend…

But this time, it’s not just about girl code. It’s about the intersection of girl code and men’s place in it. Respect and honesty really will get you a long way in life. I received honesty, but was painfully disrespected by it.

I’m not angry or upset. In fact, I’m incredibly supportive of anyone who is pursuing their happiness. In this pursuit, we all have decisions to make. And if you make those decisions, knowing how they will affect you, and others around you, then you god damn stick by those decisions! This time, I was the one unknowingly and unwillingly brought back to that awkwardly horrible situation. At the end of the day, people will love whoever they love. But when you’re willing to sacrifice a friendship for that love, well that’s some Hollywood movie type shit there.

The bullshit is, this is all because of a man. I didn’t ask for this. These women didn’t ask for this. I don’t deserve this and neither do they. And even after all of this bullshit, you have the nerve to turn around and say that ‘this impacts me too.’ It’s shocking how some people simply cannot shock you any more.

It must be hard being a privileged, white male with a university education, a job that pays more money than some could ever dream of and the delusion that your life is so hard. Yes, you will never understand what it is like to be a woman. And it’s probably for the best because quite frankly, I don’t think you could handle it. But everyone on this earth is capable of understanding love. It’s just so sad that you choose not to.

Actually, I’d like to rephrase, this is all because of a boy. Because men that I know, love and respect, have the strength to take responsibility, to reach out, to be open and vulnerable with their emotions, and think about things other than their dicks and their ego.

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I understand if writing this post might sound accusing, though it is not my intention. I understand if this may be hurtful or confronting to read, yet I am simply expressing my feelings and experiences. I also understand that some may argue that it’s not all about me, and that I am being ignorant of other’s feelings and experiences. Yes, even privileged white men have their shit and I am well aware of that. But after giving so much of myself away, this is my way of reclaiming that and making a statement that it’s not good enough. Now is not your time.

It’s funny because I have well and truly moved on. The purpose of writing this post is to firstly, allow myself to process, understand and heal. Secondly, it is dedicated to all of the selfless women making a difference out there (yes, even the girl that hooked up with my ex is included in this list because she is an dedicated, hard working woman). Thirdly, it is to explore the intricacies of relationships and female relationships. And lastly, it is to reiterate that I will not tolerate being disrespected nor will I accept other women being treated in this manor. This is an ode to the girl code and to express how grateful I am for all of the supportive women and men in my life that are positively contributing to my life. I hope I can do the same for you.

Life’s good and it’s simple. Be kind, loving, honest, respectful, love your friends, love other women, love your boobs and love yourself enough to know that you are a fucking queen!!!

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These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: OCTOBER 2017

I’M FINISHED MY DEGREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! OMG! Words really cannot describe how I’m feeling (maybe a little hungover from all the celebrations) but damn 4 years, two degrees and I’m finally done! I’m sure with my new found spare time I’ll be blogging about how it actually feels. This month has been a roller coaster, finishing a degree and applying for another is stressful. But I made it and now I can finally relax and celebrate my achievement. Let’s have a look back on the tumultuous month that was October.

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💃🏻 Feeling Confident and Proud of Myself

OK so I know this is super lame and cliché, but this month I’ve felt incredibly proud of everything I’ve achieved across my 4 years at uni. And not just uni related, but in a lot of aspects of my life. This month I spoke at the National Leadership Conference, worked hard at work, have been smashing out my uni assignments, taking time for my friends, boyfriend and myself…. and I think I’ve made it out rather unscathed. I know it may seem a bit la di dah, but every now and again it’s important to take a step back and think, damn…. I’m doing well. And I think that’s what finishing a degree means.

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🇫🇷 French

For those of you who don’t know, French is my major for one of my degrees, and it’s definitely one of the skills I’ve struggled and worked extremely hard at. Learning a language is extremely difficult, and therefore it’s important you have a good support system around you. I’m incredibly grateful for my bobos who have supported me through this last and final year of French. Not only in the classroom, but helping me indulge in my obsession with cheese, by arranging wine and cheese nights out at the Throsby. I’m super proud of my level of French and it’s definitely one of the life skills I want to continue to improve. Alors merci beaucoup mes bobos, je ne survivrais pas sans vous. 

 

 

 

 

🎓 DEGREE!!!

I have officially submitted my final assignment for my Bachelor of Communications & Media Studies – Bachelor of International Studies (Deans Scholar) – Majors: Global Media, French Minor: Global Sustainable Development

Woooo!

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🎶 Tunes

BØRNS. Damn this track is absolutely fabulous. The dance moves are to die for, and the music is just stunning. Always puts me in such a good mood.

Demi Lovato. OK for any of you who know me quite well, you’ll know that this is absolutely, completely NOT the sort of music I usually go for. But DAMN this album is actually amazing. My friend Chloe and I secretly disclosed this info to each other. ‘Hey have you heard Demi Lovato’s new album?’ ‘Yeah!’ ‘OMG it’s actually good’ ‘OMG thank god you think that, I’ve been listening to it on repeat!’ 

🎥 Flicks

Lovelace. THIS FILM IS AMAZING!!! It’s an incredibly story and filmed in such an exciting yet deeply sad way. I’ve been finding some amazing flicks on SBS On Demand so make sure you keep an eye out there for some amazing flicks!

📗Books

So apparently I’ve been on a bit of a reading rampage this month… reading is so rewarding and relaxing I always try to take time before bed to do some reading and put my mind to rest for the night.

Bad Feminist – Roxane Gay. I’ve been wanting to read this book for such a long time and I finally got my hands on it. For anyone grappling with their identity as a woman, or as a feminist, I would highly recommend this book. It’s easy to read and broken into distinctive chapters that address a broad variety of issues such as race, assault, entertainment and identity.

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Violent Borders – Reece Jones. At the beginning of this book, Jones discusses a small Spanish city called Melilla. He then mentions that the city is actually located in Morocco. Literally stop what you’re doing and look it up on Google Maps, it will amaze you! He then discusses how Spain is a part of the EU and therefore migrants from Northern Africa risk everything trying to make it into the fortressed city of Melilla to land on EU soil and be processed correctly as refugees. You can read more about Melilla here (I honestly was so amazed by this!) but this book is a fantastic look at the current refugee crisis and examines how nations (even including Australia) are struggling to manage their borders.

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1984- George Orwell. MIND. BLOWN! I honestly couldn’t put this book down. It was miserable, depressing, gripping and real. I read it in about a week and I think I could’ve easily smashed it out quicker than that! Cannot recommend enough. Also after classic book recommendations, so if you’ve got them, send them through!

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📷 Bloggers and Vloggers

👼 Twenty Something Mummy. I’ve never met Lucy myself, but I grew up in the same area as her and have followed her on Instagram for quite a while. She’s recently started vlogging and I’m really enjoying watching her! It’s definitely content I’m not used to seeing as I don’t exactly follow many mums on Instagram, but I love her voice and think it’s a real value being added to the whole ‘Twenty Something’ millennial community. Definitely go check her out!

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💛 🌻 ✈️  Raya Was Here

I’ve always been a fan of Raya’s channel, but lately her Instagram has been POPPIN! I’m absolutely in love. She’s such a positive and bright person who is such an inspiration to so many people! And that yellow dress!

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📝 Quote

The following quotes translates to ‘we are our choices.’ Jean-Paul Sartre was a French writer who turned down the Nobel Prize for literature (yep I learnt that in my French class – impressed bobos?). But this really resonated with me. Each and every day we make choices, that determine how we feel, our attitude, feelings, outlook on life… Each and every choice we make has the power to change our lives. We are our choices, so take pride in these choices to live your best life.

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Well… what a month. It absolutely flew by I can’t believe it. In the blink of an eye, I’ve finished my degree. November holds some pretty exciting things in store so definitely watch this space because I have a hell of a lot more free time which means blogging and vlogging!

Much love!