Share House Survival Guide 

Are you really a millennial if you haven’t lived in a share house? Living in an overpriced, slightly run down, house/apartment/garage/box, with a few of your mates is a rite of passage. It’s the first time we taste freedom and test our limits after flying the nest. Most people will be able to tell you of rosy, lovely times they had back in their day in their shared house. But for every one of these people, there’s 10 others just waiting to tell you a horror story or go on a 20 minute rant about their share house experience.  

So to avoid this tension and bring a little peace back into our tumultuous lives, here is my survival guide to living in a share house.  

 Establish House Rules 

OK so you’re supposed to be adults now with all this new freedom. But little did you know that the bubble you’ve been living in (your family home), is a bubble and it is about to be burst. People live very different lifestyles with different expectations and realities of cleanliness, what can and can’t be shared, how loud you can listen to your music, when people need to pee and you’ve been in the bathroom for 40minutes. You want to get off on the right foot and taking an hour at the beginning of your lease to talk about these things will save you a lot of frustration, confusion and bursting bladders.  

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Have a joint account  

If you’re that sort of household that smokes a lot of weed, then a joint account is a good idea (haha get it) . And if you’re not, a joint account is still a good idea. It makes the complex adult world of ‘paying bills,’ much less stressful and much easier to handle. Transfer your rent plus a little extra every week to go towards bills, cleaning products and beer. A house that drinks and/or smokes together, stays together. 

The Facebook Chat is the DEVIL – try a real conversation 

You may be tempted to create a Facebook chat with a catchy, punny title dedicated to house updates. Whilst it’s a good idea for little things like yo we’re out of toilet paper,’ it is not the place for ‘ok so our gas got cut off and we have no hot water’ crisis’. No joke – our gas got cut off and it truly did test our friendship (and strength to have cold showers in winter). We all know that sarcasm and Facebook rarely works, so why would we think that talking about serious house issues in the group chat would be any different. Call a house meeting or give them a call and talk about it. Talking about any issues is the best way to resolve it.  

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Don’t be a tight ass, share your milk, bread, oil….  

Living in a share house implies sharing things. So don’t be that person who writes their name on the milk bottle… it’s just milk. Sharing is caring, plus there’s no point crying over shared milk.  

However… label your hummus. That shits precious. 

Sharing is caring, but sharing your hummus is for your soul mate.  

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The kitchen….. 

I wish I had the answer to keeping a kitchen tidy. I really wish I did. What I find most effective is if you pile up all their dirty dishes into a neat corner of the kitchen and clean around it. I think the communal kitchen is a global unsolvable problem.  Just like the chicken or the egg… whose dirty dish came first? (not mine).

Play music when having that special friend over 

Most share houses that us twenty something humans can afford are pretty shit (I call it character building). But that means that they have pretty thin walls. One of the perks of living in a share house is that you can bring whoever you want back to your place without sneaking around. But living in a share house is all about respect, so if you like to get your groove on, um, loudly… play some music.  

 

Living in a share house really is the epitome of being a twenty something human. As dirty, stressful, drunk or noisy it may be, your housemates become your family and your share house a home. Over the years you’ll live with good housemate, bad housemates, terrible housemates, and housemates that turn into your best friends. No matter what happens, at least you’ll get some good stories and character building out of it.  

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[This post was written for Twenty Something Humans]

Why Your HOUSEMATES Are A Special Kind of Friend

We all have those special friends that you share everything with. But you seem to share everything and more with the people you live with. And because of this you’ll either end up loving or hating them. Luckily for me, I’ve had the best run of luck with housemates throughout my time sharing houses and apartments. Honestly, ridiculously lucky (I hope the streak continues overseas!). But there’s just something about housemates that makes them a special kind of friend, and after just having moved out of another shared house, I’ve come to realise why your housemates are a special kind of friend.

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Nicola & Tiger, my 228 apartment housemates

They see you in every light

They’re the first to see you in the morning when your hair is a mess and you’ve got drool running down your chin. And they’re the last to see you before you go to bed, when you’ve got a facemask on, rocking your trackies and trying to hide how many biscuits you have to go with your pre-bed tea. Regardless of what time of day, your housemates are there to see you, so it’s only natural that when time’s up and you have to move out, that you feel ridiculously comfortable in front of each other.

They see you at your best and worst

Not only do your housemates see you in every light, but they see you at your highest, proudest and most excited, along with maddest, moodiest, saddest and sassiest moods. They’re there to hug you when you’re upset, laugh with you when you’re an idiot, laugh at you when you’re drunk and listen to your rants. Regardless of how you’re going, your housemates will see it all. It just goes to show how compassionate, patient and understanding your housemates are, and they’re pretty damn good qualities to have.

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Khal, Steph, Chantelle and Luke. My housemates from Unit 10 for 2015

They put up with your messy dishes, room and bathroom

Some say that the walk of shame is walking home in the morning after an all nighter. The real walk of shame is darting from your bedroom to the kitchen with a pile of dirty dishes you’ve stashed away. And regardless of whether or not you think the coast is clear, there’s always someone there to see it. Your housemates also witness the following; your underwear hanging on the balcony, your hair in the sink, your pile of dishes you’ve been putting off doing for a week and your bedroom floor becoming a wardrobe. Regardless, your housemates are there to see it all.

The walls are thin

Enough said…

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The gang

Their friends become your friends

One of the best things about moving into a house with a bunch of new people, is that there’s so many more new people to meet through them. Suddenly you’ve got your housemates friends coming over for dinner, going out for drinks together and ending up at house parties with them. It’s pretty awesome because you get to meet so many new and exciting people that you’d never normally meet.

 

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Family photo at Clarendon 9, London. 

They’d do anything for you

The best thing about becoming friends with your housemates is that they’d honestly do anything for you. Whether it’s picking you up at 3am while your friend is vomitting, listening to your stories for the 10th time, lending you their milk when you’re out, or surprise cooking you dinner, dropping you off in town, taking you grocery shopping or getting drunk with you… your housemates will always be there to do anything for you.

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Harbour cruise with the girls from iHouse 

So I’m flying out in a week, about to live with many new housemates. This post is to thank each and every person I’ve been lucky enough to live with. Our friendship means more to you than you could probably ever imagine! xoxo