These Are A Few Of My Favourite Things: December 2018

Wow! What an insane month. As I mentioned last month, December is the craziest month of them all. Christmas mania kicks into full swing, everyone’s finishing uni, lease’s are ending, people are shopping and families require attention. Thankfully, the silly season is over and I can finally take a moment to myself and reflect on the month (and year) that has been.

☂️ Makin Gravy

If you’ve ever seen me see Paul Kelly at a festival, you’ll know I’m a pretty big fan. So you could image my stoked levels when Sophie’s family bought me a ticket to come along with them to his Making Gravy mini-festival in Sydney. Unfortunately, the sky decided to make a huge storm. Luckily we were prepared with ponchos, beers and plenty of good times. It was a great night dancing in the mud and singing along to the one and only, Mr Paul Kelly. I’m so grateful to have shared that awesome experience with the Washingtons and I can’t wait for next time.

⛩️ Japan

Where do you even begin to try and explain the wonders of Japan. Seriously, Japan is one of the most ‘wow’ countries I’ve ever been to. Everything is a sensation overload. The lights, the sounds, the smells, it’s all pretty damn incredible. And it’s a truly beautiful country. The people are so friendly and helpful, the mountains and countryside is gorgeous and the cities are wild with energy. A highlight for me definitely has to be our adventure out to Nagano and the Snow Monkey Forest. The little town we stayed in was called Yamanouchi, which was essentially a winter Wonderland. A full blog post on our Japan itinerary will be coming soon (so watch this space)!

🎁Christmas Festivities

It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Well I had your not so average Christmas. I was in Japan for Christmas (and yes it was snowing #magical). So I was lucky enough to celebrate Christmas with friends and family before I headed overseas. So thank you to everyone who made these Christmas festivities so memorable.

 🎶 Tunes

Bill Murray – Phantogram
Oooh I have had this song on repeat! I first stumbled upon it whilst watching The Bold Type and this song played during a really emotive scene. So naturally, this song just evokes a whole sense the good ol feels.

Prism of love – Blakey Jones feat. JONES
This is another slow, chill and emotive song (maybe I was really feeling in touch with my emotions this month?). Either way, I freakin love this song and think it’s just gorgeous. I don’t really have more to add than just go and get your ears on it.


📽️ Flicks

Dumplin
I must have been in a ‘chic flick’ kinda mood when I watched this because I seriously enjoyed every second! It’s a feel good kinda movie with freakin Jennifer Aniston! Need I say more? The main character (Dumplin) is so likeable and you’ll find yourself rooting for her the whole movie. You’ll especially love this movie if you like country music, more specifically, Dolly Parton.

Nappily Ever After
I really loved this movie! It tells the story of a successful and ‘perfect’ woman named Violet. When her perfect life comes crashing down, her relationship with her hair challenges her further, gives her strength, and helps forge a new identity. I loved how it didn’t revolve around the love story and she didn’t give up her new found identity and independence for a man. This is a great feel good movie, with important messages for all women no matter what their hair status is.

Books

All The Light We Cannot See, by Anthony Doerr
This book has been on my reading list for quite some time now. And I have to admit, the 500+ pages were pretty intimidating. But there’s nothing quite like a holiday to help you get through a big book like this one. I must admit, I’m not sure it lived up to all the hype (but to be fair, there was quite a lot of hype). That being said it is a gorgeous story that evokes a lot of emotions and senses. Once I started reading it I found it hard to stop. 

The Alice Network, by Kate Quinn
My lovely colleague lent this book to me and I seriously couldn’t be more thankful. I love it when you borrow a book from someone because it’s such a good incentive to try and get it done asap so that you can return it to them! This book is based on a number of true stories about a network of female spies during WWI and WWII. If you, like me, love seeing heroines be powerful, intelligent and motivated women, then you will love this book. And um hello – spies!

Burial Rites, by Hannah Kent
I must have really bee loving my female heroines this month when it came to reading. This is a gorgeous book! First thing, it’s set in Iceland! Second thing, it’s based on a real story. And third, the character development is really clever and beautiful. By the end I was nearly in tears and it really pulled on all of my heart strings.

📷 Bloggers, Vloggers and Podders

The Dream (podcast)
Whilst travelling around Japan, I found myself absolutely hooked to The Dream. It’s an investigative podcast into the world of multi-level marketing and strong analysis of pyramid schemes. When I first heard about it I thought it would not be my cup of tea, but the host is excellent and it’s brilliantly produced. I love it when people make you care about something you never even knew about. This podcast has made me question soooooo many things when it comes to MLM’s and the ways in which companies capitalise on people’s desperate dreams to become rich and successful. Would absolutely recommend!

📝 Quote

This month (and next year), something I’ve really been focusing on is looking after myself. It’s so easy to get caught up in everyone else’s drama, lives and mess, and meanwhile, we’re just treading water to keep afloat. In all honesty, I’m sick of constantly sacrificing my thoughts, my feelings, my time and my effort for people who have no respect or consideration for me. I’ve always been that person who’s worried about what someone might think and how they might react, but I’m the one who ends up suffering in silence. I feel like I’m a better person to myself and the people around me when I speak up and stand up for myself. I know that I would go above and beyond for the people I love, but if people aren’t willing to do that for me, well you can forget it. Don’t try and walk over me because I’m walking into 2019 with a whole lot of self-respect and love, and I won’t let anyone get in my way.

December was a truly crazy month and in all honesty, I’m kinda glad it’s over. So many adventures, so many incredible memories and so many days that flew by in a blink of an eye. My blog post for my 2018 favourites is coming soon (watch this space), plus my ‘what I want to achieve in 2019’ post. But for the time being, I’m looking forward to heading into January with some new found peace, hopefully a slower pace and a deep sense of excitement for the year ahead. I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and holiday season.

2019 better watch out, I’m coming for ya!

2018: The year of challenges and change (+ chics)

This year has been a tough one. And it’s not just me, every other person I talk to seems to have had a pretty challenging year. Maybe there was something in my horoscope in January that could have mentally prepared me for what was to come, but in all honesty, I don’t think anything could have prepared me for what 2018 threw at me. And in all fairness, if you had told me what was coming in 2018, I quite frankly wouldn’t have believed you.

It’s crazy how much your life can change in the space of a year. Rewind to December 2017 I had finished my first degree, things were getting serious with my boyfriend, I was working in client service and living with two mates. Not only has so much happened this year, but the Adelaide that sits here writing this post, is not the same Adelaide who walked into 2018, and is now striding into 2019.

2018 has shaped me in ways that I couldn’t have imagined. Despite every challenge encountered, I seriously wouldn’t change it for the world. I have learnt so much about myself and the world. I have grown stronger, more independent, more fearless and more ME! So I thought I would share with you some moments that shaped my year.

Thank u, next

Breakups suck. There’s really not too much more to that story to add that I haven’t already written. But what I can add is that whilst at the time it was a horrible experience of deceit, pain and betrayal, I have laid those feelings to rest. Holding onto negativity just poisons me, like a toxic chemical leaking into a pristine ocean (me being the pristine ocean of course). Yes, it takes time for the heart to heal and for forgiveness to flourish but it happens, even if it happens slowly.

And as much as I wish I wasn’t quoting Ariana Grande right now, I’m so fucking grateful for my ex, because if it didn’t end the way it did, I may have never met the completely undiscovered part of myself and my beautiful girlfriend Sophie.

I wanna girl

Surprised may be an understatement for how to describe my friend’s reaction to my enlightened sexuality. Some may call it coming out, other’s just call it finally being true to yourself. I wrote an article about my sexuality and my experience coming to terms with who I am, and I am still amazed by how well received that post was.

I’ve always been an open and honest person who enjoys sharing my life online. And Soph is absolutely no exception. If I’m allowed to give myself a pat on the back, I’m really proud of myself for accepting myself and being kind to myself throughout a process that can take months if not years to accept. It just goes to show that incredible things can happen when you give yourself a little love, and open yourself up to love as well. Soph, you are without a doubt the biggest highlight of 2018. You are my partner in crime and I seriously don’t want anyone else but you. I wanna girl and her name is Sophie.

Stupid little houses

Who knew that moving out of a house was the hardest part? This year I was involved in a 9 month battle to keep our bond. And like all traumatic things in my life, I wrote all about the ordeal. In all seriousness, this is one of the most stressful things I’ve ever experienced in my life. Everytime I thought about the situation my body would flood with stress, nerves and anxiety, concocting a toxic bubble in my gut. I hated that I had to go through this and I often found myself asking, ‘why me?’

But like many things in life, you can’t always control the situation, and you have to give in to the fact that shit things happen. Despite the pain of this experience, I learnt soooo much! I learnt that there are bad, greedy and selfish people in the world who will stop at nothing to bring you down. I learnt that organisation is key! I learnt what my values really are, realizing I value my time and wellbeing way more than money. And I learnt that friends and family are your most important support system.

Work work work…

This year I completed my Honours thesis in International Studies. I graduated with Class 2, Division 1 Honours and received an 85 for my thesis. I am so proud of myself. And considering that I worked 4 days a week in a new job in my field of study (communications and media), I can do it all.

Completing Honours was something I was always a bit unsure about. I thought it was reserved to those crazy high achievers and honestly just thought I couldn’t accomplish such a mammoth task. I am so grateful that my supervisor believed in me and pushed me to achieve completing my Honours degree. I was also very fortunate to go through the works of Honours with my friend Jack.

By completing Honours, I not only learnt so much about the actual topic I was researching (‘Illegal’ immigrants in the US), but I learnt about my work ethic, my determination to not only make my supervisor proud, but make myself proud, and to believe in myself and my ability without comparing myself to others. Far out I learnt a lot through degree number 3!

Comparisonitis

I know that everyone goes through phases of comparing themselves to others, but this year I’ve found myself comparing myself to who I think I should be. Is it just me, or do other people experience this too? I guess when I was a little girl I used to think about my life and what I would do, besides the whole stereotypical, ‘get married, have kids, become an expert baker.’ I think it’s important to have high standards and high expectations of yourself, but not to the point that it’s making you upset or unsatisfied with what you have!

That’s where gratitude and mindfulness come in. If you couldn’t already tell, this year has been a little insane and one of the ways I’ve managed to get through it all is to be bloody thankful and take a deep breath. We are so lucky to live this life. Everything else is a bonus. If someone makes you happy, spend more time with them. If someone makes you feel worthless or stressed, take a step away from them. If your job gives you satisfaction, stop scrolling for jobs on SEEK. If your house feels safe, secure and like home, stop looking over your neighbours fence. And of course, never believe anything you see on Instagram.

I’ve learnt this year that life is what it is and your life is no one else’s responsibility but yours. You are in control of your happiness, your fate, your income, your wellbeing and your passion. Don’t you dare ever take that for granted.

2019… the year of…

Hindsight is a blessing. It is only now that I can say, ‘Wow, 2018 was the year of challenges and change (and chics).’ Moving in to 2019 I am incredibly optimistic. With my studies over and more time to focus on my savings, my blog, my creativity, my relationships and my sense of adventure, I promise to seize each opportunity with excitement and enthusiasm.

Who knows where I will end up in a years time. But I can promise you that I will be happy, I will be brave and I will be stronger than ever.

2018 Plans & Dreams: PhD and a New Country?

2017 is wrapping up. How do I know that? Christmas carols are sneaking their way into our shopping centres and it’s not even December! Which means that 2018 will come around faster than I’m ready for it. So whilst I’ve found a moment to catch my breath after graduating (you can read about it here), I’ve turned my hungry eyes to 2018. What’s on the cards hey? Well you’re in for a treat and I’m excited as hell because I’ve got some real exciting and scary plans, plus some options and decisions I have to make. 2018… damn it makes me feel old….

My Little Brother is Turning 18!!!

Speaking of feeling old, nothing will make you feel that way like knowing your little, baby, innocent brother is turning 18. Oh. My. God. Honestly – I cannot freakin wait! So Isaac, start preparing your liver. Haha just kidding Mum!

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PhD?

Ok not quite, but what I am doing is the quickest way to a PhD which is pretty cool. Next year (hopefully) I’ll be doing my Honours/Thesis/Dissertation/Whateverthehellyouwannacallit. Basically I’ll be writing 18000 words on a topic I’ve researched all year. At the moment, and this is subject to change, but I’m planning on exploring gender inequality amongst migrant women working in the United States. Skilled and unskilled workers who may or may not be documented and therefore impact their quality of life, jobs, education and services they can access. #nerdalert But seriously this is an area I’m super interested in, particularly after travelling to Central America in July (you can read about that here). A PhD isn’t entirely out of the question later on (what am I thinking?!), so this isn’t entirely clickbait. Maybe that’s a 2020 goal?

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Moving

Woo another year another move! Fresh place means fresh start. Ideally somewhere near the beach where I plan to spend the rest of my 2018!

Learn Spanish

Just in case I won’t be studying enough, learning Spanish is on the cards! After travelling Central America I realised the importance of knowing the local language. I already speak French so hopefully (fingers crossed) it will be easyish. Learning languages are so underrated and one of the most valuable skills you can learn. We in the West have this naive belief that everyone speaks English. Well they don’t and we suck for only knowing one language. So, challenge accepted amigos!

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New Country….

I think I’ll go crazy with all of this study, work and serious business without a trip booked to motivate me through it. But where to go?! I’m open to suggestions so let me know in the comments where you’d recommend! I’ll probably only have the funds and time to be able to go away for 7-10 days. I’m thinking New Caledonia, Bali, Tahiti, Fiji vibes? Basically coconut trees and beaches.

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This list is obviously not exhaustive but there’s just some really exciting things I’ve got planned for 2018. Of course I’ll be writing my ‘2018 Things I Want To Achieve This Year’ but sometimes it’s just nice to put your goals, plans and dreams out into the Universe. Or in this case the blogosphere for the blog fairy godmother to make come true.