We all have bad days. It’s just a fact of life. And sometimes those bad days turn into a bad week. It’s not like anything in particularly bad happens, but in general you just feel a bit flat. Now I’m definitely not complaining, I am absolutely blessed and appreciate everything I have. But there’s no denying that sometimes, it can all build up and you just end up having a bad week. And I’m not one for bad weeks at all. So after a hectic few weeks of work, uni and more work, I had my plate pretty damn full.
And last week, I was just completely… flat. And it sucks when you have a bad week or two. And having finally kicked my slump, I thought that I would share this with you guys. I think it’s important to share those tough times as well. Life isn’t exactly smooth sailing. But by writing it down not only means I can share my thoughts and experiences with you, but also means I can take a chance to reflect and work on myself.
So, here is how I got out of my bad week and a reminder as to why we should always take some time to ourselves.
Feel the emotions
When you try to suppress feelings of sadness or anger, it only makes it ten time worse! Of course you don’t want to take it out on your friends or family, but you certainly don’t want to explode into a puddle of emotions. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like punching something, punch your pillow. Or better yet, exert that energy into something productive. There’s no way we can overcome our emotions until we have firstly accepted them.
Take some time out
When I’m feeling this way, I really can’t stand being around people. Mostly because I just don’t have the energy or motivation to engage in discussion or activities. But I also don’t want to bring them down or give off bad vibes. I also don’t want to accidentally take my issues out on them. I guess maybe a part of me also doesn’t want them to see me in this kind of state (when I’m definitely not ‘me’ or at my best). If you feel any of these things, taking some serious ‘me’ time will help you re-touch base with yourself. If you’re all up in your head with your worries, it definitely doesn’t help to have other people’s voices in your head confusing you.
Don’t be alone
Now I know this directly contradicts what I just said, but I mean, don’t go through rough times alone. Of course, take your ‘me’ time, but let your friend (someone you love and trust) know that you’re just dealing with some stuff at the moment and are choosing to take some time out. They’ll most likely just hug you and say ‘I’m here whenever you need me.’ This is not only reassuring, knowing that once you’ve processed your emotions, you’ve got someone to talk to, but it’s also good to communicate your feelings and just let someone else know. Plus, your friend was probably already about to throw you an intervention to find out what’s going on because after all, best friends know what you’re thinking before you even think it. There’s always someone out there to listen, hug, support and be there for you and that’s the most important thing to know!
Get some fresh air
I find great happiness in the ocean, but at times when I get stressed out, I forget how much it makes me happy. Especially if you’re taking some time out to yourself, it’s easy to just settle for Netflix alone in your room. And whilst that’s totally fine, it’s not a cycle you want to get into. Instead, put on your running shoes and go for a walk around the block, run as fast as you can, ride to town, walk to the beach, walk to a park… just get outside. I promise you’ll instantly feel better just by getting some sunshine and some fresh air.
Get to the root of the problem
If you’re still feeling a bit weighed down, write a list of the things that are stressing you out. Do you have an assignment to do? Working too many shifts? Concerned about a friend? Whatever it is, no matter how big or how small, write it down. Then brainstorm how you can alleviate these stresses. Obviously there’s some things in life we can’t control. But something like getting an assignment done or being worried about a friend is achievable. Take some time out and get that essay done. Call your friend and arrange a coffee date. Take proactive steps to getting rid of these worries.
Asking for help isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it’s a sign of how strong you are to stand up and admit that you need some assistance or guidance. There are so many people out there to offer a helping hand. You don’t need to struggle or suffer in the shadows of your room.
If you or anyone you know needs assistance you can refer to the following sites
Or… prescribe a coffee, a dose of sunshine and a best friend hug!
This one goes out to all of my friends and family who have had to put up with me this past week and helped put a smile on my face! Love you guys.