1 Year On: Returning ‘Home’ After A Year Abroad

Firstly, I’ll start by saying how extremely difficult it was for me to write this post. Not physically write it, but for me to actually accept the fact that this big journey that I’ve been living (my Eurotrip Gap Year) was a year ago and is officially over.

So this time 2 years ago (January of 2013) I got on a plane and headed off to London (you can read about my Gap Year here). One year later (a year ago nearly to the day) I said goodbye to London and G’Day to Australia. And as the months flew by, I got stuck in to my new uni life (read about my adventures of 2014 here) as my London life slowly slipped away. So what are the biggest changes readjusting to life back ‘home?’ How do I define home? What’s the hardest part of it all? Here it is.

About to jet off to Iceland
About to jet off to Iceland

Home isn’t quite the same – you’re stuck somewhere in between. For a few months you mistakingly refer to home as in London (after all, it was home sweet home), then you start calling your parents house home, then where you’re living home and then you just get confused. I believe home truly is where the heart is, and my heart seems to be scattered around the world.

You have an identity crisis – you get on the plane all strong minded like ‘yea I know who I am and I’m not gonna let anyone change me.’ Then you land in Sydney, see all your friends and family and suddenly have an identity crisis. WHO AM I? It’s a terrifying experience, thinking that the old you is slipping away, making way for the new you that you’re not quite sure you like. The thought that got me through this ‘transformation’ is that I’m growing and learning from every experience (good or bad) and at the end of the day, it will help make me stronger.

Conquering a hike through a valley
Trying to be a strong independent woman

People see you as the same little you that left – Not the strong independent traveller you now are. School friends see you as the nerd that studied too much, or too things too seriously, or partied too much… but little do they know how much you’ve changed. You feel so empowered, accomplished and strong until someone says ‘aw, you haven’t changed one bit,’ then all that confidence disappears like packets of Tim Tam’s on sale.

You can no longer say ‘This time last year’- For some reason, this was such a comforting statement. Comparing my life now to my adventures last year. But now I can say this time next year… who knows where I’ll be or what I’ll be doing!’ That is the most motivating thought I have. The thought of the unknown!

europeans adventures 1193
Welcoming new challenges and adventures

You can see people getting bored with your travelling stories but you’ll still tell them again – What do you mean you don’t want to hear about how I lost my purse in Rome and magically found it an hour later with all my money in it? Or the time I crashed the best house party in London? Or the time I got to march in the St. Pattys Day Parade in Dublin? Or the time… Ok I get it, you’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it a few more times yet so get comfortable.

You get a serious case of PTD (Post Travel Depression) – You have the highest high that travel offers and suddenly you stop and you’re back at home. Then you come crashing down with the realisation that it’s over. It’s real and it sucks.

You lose touch with your ‘lifelong friends’- At high school you have about 50 BFFL pink sparkly necklaces. And as soon as you jet off, the sparkles seem to magically disappear. This isn’t necessarily a sad part of leaving home, it’s just the inevitable change in life that takes some getting used to. Regardless of if you actually keep these friendships for life, you’ll always have the precious memories of friendships.

My (short) Christmas with my family 2014
You realise how important family is!

But you also find out who your real friends are – You might now have to message everyday. In fact, one of my best friends that was in Australia when I was overseas and I barely spoke. Not because we didn’t want to, but because we were so preoccupied with our busy lives. And the second one of us needed eachother, we’d be there. The minute I returned to Australia it was like I never left. It’s those sorts of friendships that will last for years and will be the most special. Best Friends For Life (for real).

You don’t settle for okay anymore – You’ve had a taste of the spicy, succulent, addictive flavours of the world and crave it everyday. Why would you then settle for a little salt and pepper seasoning? You won’t accept ordinary, or average, or okay… you try to make everything incredible!

You feel motivated to do it again – Was it all worth it? The love, the pain, the grief, homesickness, the ongoing identity crisis… (see image below)! So what am I doing about it now? I’m trying to live life to the fullest, to appreciate everything and everyone I have and bring on the adventures for 2015 and years to come!

x A

If it’s on Sex and the City, it must be true

13 thoughts on “1 Year On: Returning ‘Home’ After A Year Abroad

  1. I think this experience resonates across the board for people who have the opportunity to spend a longer period of time travelling.

    You come home and you’ve changed, dammit. Why doesn’t anyone care? Why is everything still the same?

    Although difficult, be happy that you have wanderlust. That you will always be itching to put another stamp on your passport. That you won’t settle for ordinary!

    1. I hoped that other travellers would understand! Thankyou for your understanding and support! Best of luck with every extraordinary thing you set out to accomplish this year! 🙂

  2. This is all so reallll. I never stayed abroad as long as you did, but when I studied in Japan in high school, I came back and felt so… distant from everyone. And that was only for a month! It’s like you cram so many feelings and memories into a period of time, then suddenly you’re back home with people who don’t understand or care enough to hear all you want to share… Yeah.

    But like you said, that first taste of being away makes you realize that you want more than ordinary. You discover who your real friends are—and they stay your friends even when THEY move abroad, because you’ve done it before. “The minute I returned it was like I never left.”- That’s how you know it’s a friendship worth keeping. And then you do it all over again.

    Thanks for sharing! ❤

    1. It’s such a strange feeling isn’t it. At first it’s all a bit overwhelming but in hindsight you realise that everything happened for a reason to help make you stronger.

      Japan is somewhere I’d love to go, I’m sure the culture shock of being their long term would be significant but imagine everything you could learn! Definitely on my hit list!

      Thanks for sharing your experiences! I love hearing from readers 🙂
      Best wishes for 2015 and I hope it is extraordinary!

    1. Well when/if you move on, let me know if it resembles something like this?
      I’m hoping to go on exchange with university to Canada for 6 months then once I graduate relocate to Scotland. I’m sure one day I’ll find ‘my place’ but until then, i’ll keep on searching. 🙂

    1. Travelling is hard, especially when youve got committments at home
      One day though, you might find yourseld with not as many committments and you can jet off anywhere! 😊

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